What I have to go through as a prison wife.
Did you know that there are 203,540 people in our federal prisons? I had no clue. Not until my husband was one of them to go in. The sad part is he did nothing wrong. I know everyone says that, but this is for real.
I am not going to go into detail over the whole case, that will be left to another post at another time. Today it is about being a wife of a federal inmate.
My husband and I have 2 beautiful children. Our son is now 9 years old and our daughter is now 2 years old. My husband went to prison in March of 2007. Our daughter was only 9 months old. At the time we lived in a small 2 bedroom apartment on the 3rd floor of the building and had no elevator. When he left, it was up to me a stay at home mom to make everything work for our family.
I, of course had to go back to work after not working for almost 5 years. That was the hardest thing ever. Do you know how hard it is to get a job after you haven’t been employed in that amount of time? Then to top it off I didn’t have any education past high school graduation. I didn’t think I would really need to since the plan had always been for me to stay home with the kids and take care of them and the house. After the company my husband worked for was shut down, he started his own business doing what he loved and that was teaching music. The income from his business wasn’t anything amazing, but he was doing something he loved and it paid the bills and allowed for a little left over each month for us to stick away. With him gone I didn’t know what I was going to do.
The first thing I did was went to our local Department of Human Services and signed up for everything they had to offer. Food stamps, medical, child care, you name it my name was on it. I used the child care while I looked for a job. I still didn’t have one after a year of trying. My in-laws helped the best they could by paying our rent and giving us a little extra cash for the bill to be paid over that time. After a year of paying our rent for us they decided it would be a better investment for them to just buy us a house. I have felt so guilty taking their money and their house. I know a lot of people say they wouldn’t feel guilty for the free hand out, but I did and still do to this day. I always feel like I owe them for it and I know I will never be able to pay them back for everything they have done for us.
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