Marriages are sometimes hard to keep alive! I envy the folks that have been married forty years or more. It sure makes you wonder what is wrong with the world today! Do we give up to easy on love? Was it love when we married or just lust? What held people together for so many years so many years ago? Granted things weren’t as fast paced years ago as they are today and folks worked harder and had less than we have today but they hung on tight to love.

“I remember my first marriage”We went to school together he was my first love:! I know what went wrong there. We were married way to young! We were both only sixteen years old. Like all young folks we thought we knew everything. We stayed married  for fourteen years and had three wonderful children together. It really was a good marriage at least as good as it could be for being so young. We lived on welfare for a year and a half until my husband was old enough to get a job, once he was able to work he was a hard worker and kept a full time job always supporting the three children and I.

We just slowly out grew each other and decided to move on. Probably some of the things we did in our marriage helped to push us apart. We had an open marriage for the last three years of our marriage thinking it would help to fix our marriage and because we thought we were missing something. We soon learned that everyone comes with the same pluming they are just different shapes and sizes. Many times we would go out together and end up going home with someone else, many of our friends and acquaintances were doing the same thing, it is called swinging. In fact we even had a large pool put in so we could have some wild and crazy swinging pool parties. He slept with my friends and I slept with his. We never felt that we were cheating on each other because the other always knew where the other one was and who they were with. Even after we were divorced we stayed in touch, seldom fought and shared the children without fighting about it. He paid child support and never complained about having to pay it. We are still friends which makes it easy for our children who now have children of their own. we still do a few things as a family and our kids know that they can invite both of us to an outing and we won’t kill each other as some divorced couples want to do at times. The little ones get to know grandma and grandpa together with no fighting or bickering. The old saying sharing is caring certinaly isn’t true when it comes to a good marriage. “I wouldn’t recommend open marriage to anyone”! Especially if you are going to do it thinking it will save your marriage!  I am not so sure that I would ever do a wife swap, husband swap if another husband were to ask me to do it, but I don’t have any regrets either, it is over and done with, life goes on!