Turning Into a Homemaker

Mythili Kannan on Jan 8, 2009

Tags: homemaker, Life, mother, work

For most working women, at the least once in their life will face a situation, where they may need to give up their job. Here is wish to share my situation, which turned me a homemaker.

For most women of this century, turning into a homemaker all of sudden gives a mild heart attack. When forced into a situation, where their job turns into a secondary one and family comes first, for sure they choose to become a homemaker. But still the pain of being jobless keeps them in a dilemma. Whenever get chances, they self pity themselves, associating each and every occurrence as pointing them and making fun on them for being jobless.

I’m one victim of that situation. I worked as a Software Engineer in a top MNC, with a very good salary. From the status of “Lower Middle Class”, my family raised as “Upper Middle Class”. I were always happy and proud about my job. I got married three years before and my husband is also a Software Engineer. We both were so happy that both our offices were just 2kms apart and we always had enough time to meet in between. We just kept enjoying each and every moment of life.

Later, when I got pregnant, I didn’t bother much my job, as I thought there would be some way and something will turn at that time. So I kept myself happy talking to my baby, always touching my stomach. I started to feel the bond between me and my baby inside. I used to keep talking most of the time. Even when in office, I used to go to the restroom whenever I felt talking to my baby. I loved that. I took maternity leave little earlier, so that I could enjoy more time talking to my baby. I felt my baby responded to me most of the times by giving a kick back.

After my delivery, I didn’t feel like going anywhere leaving my son, even for a moment. Till I had leave, I didn’t felt the pressure. But when the days ran and I were in condition to join back the job, I felt the real fact slapping on my face and I couldn’t tolerate that. I always used to be in a dilemma, thinking whether I should leave my son to my parents and go to job or should I resign. Every day, I woke up with lot of thoughts and pain. My parents or in-laws were not in a condition to come to my job location, which was around 500km from my native. My heart broke as days passed.

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valli on Jan 8, 2009
You are right. The relation which you developed with your son is priceless. No job can give you that.
Pradeep on Jan 8, 2009
I imagined each and every line you write there. Excellent writing. Keep Posting.sure i am gonna send this to My wife.
Jeyaboopathiraja on Jan 8, 2009
Mythily you are the good mum in the world……………proud of u………… i got some tears from my eyes,
Dr Sanjay Verma on Jan 9, 2009
Surely mythily, its really intresting and touching, how you felt. Remember one thing, its difficult to get everything in life. You have to balance things in life, individually. How good you balace things, more mature you are. Life is difficult i know, but still there is lot to enjoy. keep smiling.
Nathalie Sellars on Jan 9, 2009
I really respect you, you definitely made the right decision oh and nice writing too!
babushka on Jan 9, 2009
Good for you, this is a very difficult choice. I chose to stay home to raise my children, and I am really glad that I did. I have never had problems with any of them, and they went through their teenage years in a normal, healthy way, and now all are out making their way in the world. It seems that people who have trouble with their teenage children are people who did not spend enough time with their children during the early formative years, and the bond of trust, mutual respect, and self worth is lacking.

When parents don\’t care enough about their kids to put them first, kids grow up feeling under valued, and that leads to all kinds of problems.

Even though I have never been able to develop the kind of career I would have liked, as I begin to grow old I thank God I do not have the nightmare problems with my kids that others I see have.
Coot on Jan 10, 2009
I’ve been in your shoes, and battled over the choice. My daughter was in my Church Daycare and stayed sick too often – so after a year (Of heartache, pumping breastmilk, crying on my way to work, her Dr. appts., etc.- I QUIT dream job and huge/needed income for the baby who needed Mommy more. (Hasn’t been sick since!)I’m only sorry it took me so long- and I admire your quick decision. I don’t waste money, buy clothes(for myself), and cut all corners I can. For any Mom facing that decision, -choose time/health for your child over extras financially. And if quitting isn’t an option, be sure to know you are doing what you must to provide- and that takes courage too.
Betty Carew on Jan 11, 2009
Without a doubt you made the right choice. Nice article.
Yovita Siswati on Jan 12, 2009
Hi, as a mother and working mom, I felt that kind of dilemma as well, but the right choice for me at the moment is to keep my job as try as much as possible spending my time with my daughter. Nice article. I enjoy reading it.
Mythili Kannan on Jan 12, 2009
Thank u friends…. I’m happy that my decision is right
Nisha from Mallugrp on Sep 23, 2009
Offcourse its correct. Most of the mums do that and what best can we offer our kids, smart, educated and well informed mums with lots of affection and time!

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