I am a child, a teenager experiencing the pangs of adolescence. I do not know if what I’m writing here is true, but I believe that this is what is happening.

I cannot say that I have a very lonely childhood. I am very happy too, albeit sad. I live with my parents and siblings. I am one of the very fortunate people who still have both their parents. However happy this may seem, it is not entirely a cause to be very happy.

My mother pinches me, slaps me, shouts at me, spanks me and grounds me. She thinks that violence is the best. She said she was treated that way too. She said it’s the best way to train people, and somehow she sets herself as an example.

I merely laughed at that.

She calls herself an example of good will and kindness. How ironic. I cannot call her nice. Maybe a prat and a spoiled brat. She wants to get everything she likes, though subconsciously. It makes it look like her  She whines and uses the silent treatment, and when asked twice, she shouts at the person.

Parents and readers, this shouldn’t be the way. You should always be a better example. Even though your child seems to obey you albeit grudgingly, that is not what it is. A child knowing and sensing danger tends to not respond to your “orders” when they know their limitation. Being powerless and no right against you, they seem to just accept the task. But that is what you just see. You don’t know what’s inside the mind of the child.

It may be planning plots, muttering under their breath, thinking of how a wicked parent you are and a lot more. It could get a lot worse, depending on the “order”. You should be pretty aware of the “revenge” part. Nobody knows how a child revenges. It may be worse than you think.

These are one of the reason your child hates you. The older your child gets, its hate or anger also grows.

To avoid these, you only need a nice chat. And when I say a nice chat, that means no reprimanding, shouting or getting angry. You should try to console your child, talk them into doing better things, and tell them that you love them. This is better than violence.

I have a lot of friends who’s parents are like this. They just talk to their children, give words of comforts, and try to not only be a mother but also a friend. They were very kind children, I couldn’t believe it. I just thought all parents are like mine and all the children rebel against there own parents.

I sadly reflected my self and my parents to them. I had a selfish and violent mother who keeps me crying at night, creating me into this sort of plastic person who tries to be good and strong in the outside, but actually a mean, cruel and weak person. While my friends have a very nice parent who is like a friend to them, helping them turn into decent, better people.

Why can’t I just have their mother? I ask myself frequently.

Do you reader, want your children to think like this? Be a better person and teach your children to be a good child, not with violence but with soothing words and conversations.

I made this so that, future children won’t feel what I feel.

Please do think about this.