I know that being negative about yourself is never a good thing. Cosmo mentions that you shouldn’t be negative about how you look because then you won’t have a relationship or think that everyone is too good for you. Like I needed Cosmo to tell me that I shouldn’t be so negative and be comfortable about how I look, etc. Yet, there are moments when I begin to think that I’m not to blame for how I am and that it’s society’s fault. I mean, I don’t know about you all but I blame society for how they think that the average person should look like a model or be extremely beautiful. However, if someone is negative about themselves who is to blame? Not all the time are we going to be able to blame everyone but ourselves.

According to Bfofjaded, I’m always negative about myself. It usually started out like my everyday routine when I decided that I haven’t been online chatting for a while now. Out of nowhere this guy asks me where I’m from. So I replied and we hit it off nicely. (Translation: It couldn’t go any smoother and he seemed to be potential boyfriend material) However, he then told me he had a boyfriend and that they were so happy together. I told him, “I’m so happy for you. I wish I could have a relationship”. He then said, “Why can’t you?”. I then told him that no one would want to go out with someone who is beautiful, attractive, and a funny person. He said nothing for a minute or two then said, “U r being negative about yourself?” I couldn’t believe it. Here I am, trying to make people laugh and am comfortable with who I am and this guy says that I’m so negative. Who does he think he is? How dare he tell me that I’m dateless because I’m negative about how I look? I mean, I flaunt, I dress sexy, hell, I even speak with a boorish British accent.

Frankly, I almost told him off and left him alone, instead I continued to talk to him until we said our goodbyes and signed off. All through the night I got to thinking, is it true what that guy was telling me, am I negative? As the week went by I started noticing that I was a little negative but about other things not really my appearance. Then my brain really started to hurt as I kept thinking about the other things in life and if I was negative towards them. Therefore, I started to ponder about relationships. Can negativity towards yourself inflict or cause uproar in your relationship that you have with your boyfriend/girlfriend? I don’t think that it can because, like I said earlier, negativity can have an influence on certain things in your life. Thus, it depends on the person and how negative they are towards specific things. See, I could have been negative to Bfofjaded when I told him that my beauty keeps guys away but I wasn’t.