Okay so I am a freshmen in college. At the start of this year the school had a bunch of events that set up places for new people to met. At one such event I met this girl, lets call her Lissa. And me and Lissa had some common interests. So we meet up and start forming somewhat of a friendship and we kind of introduce people to each other. She had this friend, lets call him Trey and me and him hit it off right away. Well it turned out that Lissa and Trey had dated for two years before college but broke up for reasons I am unsure of. One day after everyone went off to do their own thing me and Trey went and hung out together by default and had an awesome time (in a friend way). Durning this time Lissa had been trying to get a hold of Trey to come hangout but he wasn’t getting her messages, so she came out to look for him. We were sitting in a park watching a movie (it was a college event) and she saw us and got all pissy and stormed away. After the movie I get a text from her that basically said “stay the fuck away from him” even though both me and him were under the understanding that we were friends. So i told her basically to “fuck off and that I didn’t like it when people tried to tell me what to do,”. Soon Trey and Lissa started dating again and it bothered me a lot more then I expected. But me and him talked and confessed that we “had something”. But we kept hanging out and stuff building our friendship and stuff and we became really good if not best friends. There was a night however where dating Lissa prevented him from being able to be there when I really needed him. So he dumped her.
well here is where it is now. He likes both me and Lissa, but because I am not making stupid demands that say something the lines of get rid of her or I am leaving, then coming back. We’ve kissed since then and we hang out like every night and he says he leaning more towards me.
But, we both know that I am still 50/50 on the dating him vs. being his friend thing. I also know that I am difficult and should he put all his cards on me I might turn him down.
I know that I am the reason that Lissa and Trey broke up, but I didn’t really do anything while they were dating. But at the same time I am leading Trey on, sometimes I want him and sometimes I am playing ti like a game, so am I horrible person for doing this?