Have you ever lived with someone who is anal in his ways? Either you learn to ignore their antics or you fall into the trap of wanting to kill them on a daily basis. With me, I have a little of both. Ten years ago, I thought of it as cute but after ten years, it can become a little hairy.

At first I thought it was about him being selfish, self-absorbed, and a big pain in the rump but lately, I’ve come to realize it is that and much more that makes him tick. You see it is about him having the mine, mine mentality but he because totally crazy or irrational when he sees things a little out of place and or not go his way or the way he thinks is the right way.

As I sat in the living room I began to see a pattern. Wow! He is just like my mother. Gosh, I never got along with my mother. How did I marry someone who could be like her. So no w I begin to analyze both of them when they are together. They are both crazy and trying to make me crazy.

They are both controlling, demanding, always right, like things their way or the highway, they complain all of the time, they are negative, they jump to conclusions, they are belligerent, they like to hurt with words, they like to give ultimatums, they are like the FBI, they like to gossip about others but don’t like to hear the truth about themselves, they don’t let you talk, make up stories in their heads to fit their conclusions, they are picky about their eating, they nag you about the same thing over and over and over again, but they also love 110% percent.

Every day I battle with a split decision about my husband. Do I kill him today or do I hug him today. In my daily chores, I try to make light of things and joke about his antics. There are days, where he can take a joke but there are other days where he will just get ticked off about me making a joke and won’t talk to me for the rest of the day. The slightest thing will get him upset so I walk on eggshells most of the time. There are days that I don’t even talk to him because I could sense his attitude to be nasty so to avoid arguments, I avoid him.