Is it right for a mother to pay for her Down’s Syndrome son to lose his virginity to a hooker?
Much of the news upsets me. However, having a handicapped child myself makes this story personal. The premise of the story may be acceptable to some, but to others, I feel this story will reach beyond the realms of a sane and well meaning mother.
Lucy Baxter is the mother of four adopted sons: 25 year old James, 21 year old Otto, 14 year old Titus, and seven year old Raphael. All of her adopted children have Down’s Syndrome. She has been an advocate for the disabled and a member The Down’s Syndrome Association. On the surface, this Oxfordshire, UK mom seems like a person that I would praise. However, she has carried her advocacy for equality to a level that I could never condone.
Otto is an aspiring actor. He has appeared in several local theater productions like, Macbeth and The Canterbury Tales. The mother claims that he has many friends and visits local pubs frequently. He seems like a well put together young man. But, his mother claims that he has a serious problem….he is still a virgin.
That is right, she is concerned that he is still a virgin. She claims that everyone his age is having sex, and he should be able to do the same things that other non- Down‘s adults are doing. She went on to announce that Ottos’ room is stuffed full of condoms and that his collection of pornography is staggering. Her desire is for Otto to experience the “fun” of sex, and has now set up a Bebo page asking anyone and everyone to become Otto’s date, girlfriend, or one night stand.
Now, I completely understand that Otto has the same desires and needs as everyone else, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with a mother trying to find her son a date. However, Lucy Baxter is going beyond wanting her son to just be normal, go on a date, or have sex. In fact, she is so worried about his virginity that she is willing to pay for her son to go to a brothel in Amsterdam if the dating sites that she has put him on doesn’t work.
Lucy told the media that her reason for trying so hard to help her son lose his virginity is because she has repeatedly told him that he is like everyone else. Sorry Lucy Baxter, but everyone else doesn’t pay for sex, and normal people do not want love or pleasure from someone that is only offering it due to money.
This mother is rushing something that should be natural, teaching her children that love can be bought, and creating an unreal expectation for her son as to what his mate will be like. Otto already says that his ideal girlfriend would look like UK T.V. presenter Fearne Cotton.
Forget about whether you agree with her paying a prostitute. The real issue here is Otto. Is it really realistic for her to pay women to be with him, and thereby give him an unrealistic expectation as to future unpaid girlfriends? It seems she is setting him up for more anguish and disappointment. That is not healthy or productive. I say leave him alone, and let nature take course. What do you say?
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