The first element of jealousy that needs to be overcome is the internal aspect. Very often the person who is being consumed by jealousy is the only person who is aware of those feelings. Just like anger, sadness, depression and frustration, jealousy can destroy a person if it is allowed to build up inside. It would perhaps be wise to consider speaking to someone close to you and sharing your feelings and the reasons why you think you’re feeling the way you do. It very often takes an outside perspective to spot the true root of the problem. The loving and supportive people in your life can also help you to find your own self-worth again; which is very important since jealousy is often a by-product of you measuring your self-worth versus the perceived self-worth of the person you’re jealous of.

Secondly, you have to come to the realisation that everyone is different and that different people are suited to different situations and goals. This is especially prevalent in workplace situations where someone else may have gotten a promotion above you. The natural instinct would be to become jealous and spiteful because of this. This is exactly where you need to tackle these feelings immediately before they spin out of control. Some helpful ways to deal with them would be for example: objectively trying to understand why they got the promotion and not you. None of us want to hear it, but sometimes there’s things about ourselves that need to be changed to reach the goals we want to achieve. Also, don’t always view other people’s achievements in terms of your own. As mentioned earlier, different people are suited for different things and you shouldn’t always view the world in a “me versus him/her” mentality.

The third way of the many ways of beating jealousy is to focus on yourself and your skills and talents. Once again, you’re different from the next person. You will be able to do things that other people may not be able to and vice versa. It is vital to identify your strong and weak points early on in your life. This will help you to mature in your outlook on the world and will most definitely help you beat feelings of jealousy when they arise.

Above all else, establish your self-worth and build your self-confidence. With these two foundations you will be able to accept the achievements of others and enjoy your own so much more, without having the thorn of jealousy in your side.