I Stole a Tomb Stone

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            My Uncle past away in February of 2008, and of cause he was the blood relative, his wife is the in law, but perhaps in this case she is making herself the outlaw, needless to say because of things that have happened since my Uncle’s death, I have this recovering dream.

            It starts out with me sitting at his grave site, apologies for why he has too few visitors; part of which is because with the invention of planes, trains and automobiles family has spread out, so that is part of the problem. As the dream moves on, I ask him to find a way to let his wife, know he is doing all right and that he would like her to visit, or at least believe that all is well. My aunt is suffering from severe depression because she became widowed at a young age; and they did everything together. They were truly to most compatible couple I have ever seen in my life.

            So as I sit there talking with my Uncle, I have this brainstorm, if I can’t get people to the site, then I will just bring the stone to them; and that is what I do. I know how heavy a tombstone is, but in my dream I am able to pick it up, get it into my van, without anyone stopping me; but then again it is New York and nobody cares what other people are doing.

            In my dream before I head out to the necessary family member that I MUST see, I head off to the tombstone engraver and have “Rest in Peace our loving Brother and Uncle, engraved on the opposite side, since his immediate family forgot that he was also the brother and uncle to many of us.

So off I go, with my uncle’s tombstone in my van, and I head out to a sibling of his that did have the opportunity to visit and did not. Then the plan was to head to see his wife; but somewhere along the way something changes………I am sitting in a family gathering with all my uncles sibling, my uncle wife which unfortunately would probably never happen again, unless there is another death in the family. Now I have everyone right where I need them, but for some reason I cannot get that sibling nor the wife over to my vehicle, in my dream I did not tell them that the stone was there, but every time I would get their attention, someone would interrupt us and off they went; leaving me feeling very unimportant and angered by the fact that I could not get them to my car.

Left with no choice I decide to bring the tombstone and place it next to me, as if it was my date, and what happens, everyone goes outside; again my plan if foiled.

I awoke very upset, but I believe that this was my own frustration as well as reminding me, that no matter how hard I try, it has to be the person who will make the attempt to visit my uncle and my personal feeling must be set aside.

I now find it amusing and realize that I am always trying to fix things, and sometimes it is just not within my reach. Darn!

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So for now I must leave it, that my uncle is resting in a peaceful place, and be content with that.