Recently I posted an example of one of my own negative thoughts/beliefs and went through the process of The Work.  I will start posting articles of the process for each of my negative thoughts.  I thought that it could help someone if they have the same thought/belief, and that I could get feedback.  Sometimes I get stuck on the turn arounds, but perhaps someone who reads this can help me come up with turn arounds and/or reasons why the turn around is as true as the original statement. 

All questions are taken from the One Belief at a Time Worksheet on www.thework.com

Negative Belief: If something goes wrong, I am to blame.

1. Is it true?  It feels that way.
2. Can you ABSOLUTELY know that it is true?  No, not absolutely.
3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe the thought?
-I feel depressed, worthless, useless.
-It brings a lot of stress to my life.
-I see a girl who is complete rubbish, who only ruins other peoples lives.
-I feel the symptoms of anxiety (panic, heartbeat racing) and depression.
-I treat others poorly.  I shut them out.  Want them all to go away.
- I hate myself, hurt myself.  Scream on the inside. 
-I want to drink.  I hurt myself.  I find comfort in food.  Things I can control, when my life is out of control.
- First time I can recall was in grade school.  I was told that nobody wanted to be my friend because I was bossy. 
-I don’t know whose business I am running around in.
-I get to be right when I really am to blame.  I get anxiety when something goes wrong, because I feel I am to blame, or feel I should be to blame. 
-I fear I would get a big head, and never take blame even when I do things wrong.  I fear people would think badly of me like they did in grade school.  I fear it may hold me back.

4. Who would you be without the thought? 
Without the thought I would be less anxious, more calm.  I would not worry about making mistakes because I would learn from them rather than them being an anxious thought. 

Turn It Around.

Turn Around One: Opposite
If something goes wrong, I am NOT to blame.
- Everything is not my fault, because I can not control everything.
- Everyone makes mistakes, its inevitable.

Turn around two: Others
If something goes wrong, everyone else is to blame
-This is not entirely true though, because as I said in the previous turn around, some things cannot be controlled.

Turn around three: ?
If something goes wrong, no one is to blame.
-Sometimes, things happen, and no one is to blame.
-Unsure of any other explanations, or turn arounds. 

Accept Reality:

• I am willing to make mistakes, because it is inevitable.
• I am willing to not be perfect, because no one is perfect.
• I am willing to accept things when they go wrong, and know I am not to blame.  When I am at fault, however, I will acknowledge it and make amends. 
• I look forward to accepting things how they are.

If you have any feedback on The Work, or this specific inquiry, I look forward to hearing what you have to say.  In the coming weeks I will be doing more of these inquiries, so if you like them, I hope you will stop by for more!