Thank you for sharing this,finding your own self worth is hard sometimes, but you must. There is only one of each of us. Search inside and learn to love who you are. Your honesty with your self is your strength, build on it. Good luck,God bless and Thank you.

Hi, Virginia, how are you?
Your courage in sharing is commendable. I think self-esteem is a problem with 90 % of teens. I’m not trying to make light of your past, but I’m just saying, I think that solving this issue is one that could benefit nearly everyone. Proper self-regard is rare, after all. Thanks for being as bold as putting your heart in your font.

The biggest struggle I’ve ever had to deal with was trying to convince my wife the truth when someone else lied to her about cheating with me. That was in 2006-07. But 2001 was the worst year of my life: first, I got into a car-crash that could have killed me, causing almost $4000 CAD worth of damage which I couldn’t pay for, a girlfriend broke up with me 1 day before Valentine’s, my cousin commited suicide, a couple months later I lost my job because my boss and a co-worker conspired against me, (she came on to me but she was the one who cried sexual harassment), and because of the gossip created from that, I was forced to resign from a children’s camp, my maternal grandfather passed away a couple weeks after that, then, in the late autumn/early winter, my paternal grandfather had a heart attack and passed away. That was the toughest year I’ve ever had, but I got through it. That’s my story.

The easiest way to build your self-confidence is to continue to put yourself out for others, to do things for other people. Don’t take this the wrong way, but if you want to like what you see in the mirror every morning, then you’ve got to stop looking so hard. Confidence should be based on the kind of person you are, not on what you think others see.

This is what Rabbi Joshua Loth Liebman once said:
““One road to proper self-regard is the acceptance of our imperfections as well as our perfections. . . . Instead of keeping these two pictures separate, we must look at them together and gradually blend them into one. We must begin to know and accept ourselves for what we are – a combination of strengths and weaknesses. It is enough if we learn to respect ourselves with all our shortcomings and achievements; to know that true love of self neither exaggerates its powers nor minimizes its worth.”

Self esteem is a constant fight for everyone. You have to find the happy medium. You have to love yourself the way you are, only then will most things fall into place.

I see you wrote this so well. So Virginia, I believe what you said that you do everything well. Please be proud with yourself. You are so worthy. The only thing we have to learn is satisfaction. I will try to write about this subject.

You have several, wonderfully supportive folks saying incredible things that I agree with. One of the most difficult things in life is to find comfort in your own skin. I think here you are off to a good start. Feed off of these wonderful people. You will find yourself. I know you will.

i wanted to take a moment to thank all of you for the comments you left on my posting What Has Been Your Most Difficult Struggle in Life? i really appreciate the time you took to offer advice and encouragement.

i want to let you know that i do not write things like that to get myself a pity party going on. i am working on my personal problems, trying to get myself to a “good place”. writing publicly seems to be a very effective way for me. somehow has made me become more honest with myself and others.

i also write things of this nature so others like me know that they are not the only ones. i have found comfort in knowing that i am not some mental case that no one can understand. maybe if i put my honest self and struggles out there in effort to fix them then someone else will be moved to try it for themselves.

Your courage in facing such questions is very impressive. Indeed the most difficult questions are those that involve ouyr own selves subject to our own limitations. Life is a struggle really and it takes a lot of positivism to face all that life brings to all of us. God bless you.
Shalom.

We all have some part of our personality that we cannot relate to or like. Believe me, you are not alone. Very brave indeed!

I can relate to this soo much, it is all so true in alot of our lives and it can be very hard to move past!!