Yeah its hard though, dealing with the thought of not being liked, when you’ve done nothing wrong. Its a sickening feeling, a stab in the heart, a kick in the stomach, a spit in the face feeling that I get out of it that I cannot deal with.

I love your article you spoke exactly what I needed to hear, I’ll pray and continue to hold my head up high no matter what my family continues to hold against me, thank you!

Wow! Your words seemed like you were talking to me. Although some of your circumstances were different, many of the emotions and struggles were right on and are similar to my struggles. The one big difference for me is that my family has replaced me with another family. They now spend “family celebrations” with another family and lie to me about it! It is so hard not to have my heart broken by this, but your article helped. Thank you for your encouragement.

I too am a black sheep in my family. Why I dont know I’ve never done anything to them. I havent been around them except when we would go visit. I’m not welcome in their home, I cant call them and talk to them you know just for emotional support or just to talk and get to know my cousins my age. I recently found a cousin who is several years older on facebook she now lives in LA is a native of Hartford. I had no idea she was a director. I only wanted to become reaquainted with her and to find out about other relatives as I have two grown children now and an 18mo old and I want them to know their relatives. Well I guess that wont happen I guess they are not interesed in us because I dont fit in their circle I dont have money or own my own home or have a college degree. This really hurts these are my grandmothers nieces, nephews and their children. I thought families are supposed to be close knit, supportive, embracing huh thats a joke to me. I asked two of her nieces awhile ago for a place to stay 60-90 days I have housing assistance and only needed to stay until my paper was transferred guess what I was turned away and it was just me and they wouldnt take me in I’m not some drug addict or thief. My granny would have never turned them or their children away never! She always welcomed them in her home would send fruitbaskets,cards,money, gifts for special occasions weddings etc. I dont understand why they dont like me this is so painful that I cant go to any of my family and family is supposed to be there no matter what. Maybe if I won the lottery then they would accept me then I’d be able to fit in. Why dont they want me this really has me so depressed not being accepted by your own flesh n blood for no reason none at all! I hope that someone in my family reads this and knows just how painful it is to not be wanted,loved,accepted by them.But I know GOD will never forsake me, leave me nor abandon me never he is always there when no one else is I can call on him. The Clary-Williams Family Members all of you this is not the type of family I wish I was born in. Florida,Connectucut,California,Georgia, New Jersey

adding to my comment I didnt know what her status was
(director) I didnt know this until after she responded back to my first message then I looked thoroughly at her facebook page and saw it, the second message no response I was hurt and I just had a feeling that she too would also shun me why?I dint want anything just a friend in my cousin someone to talk to thats all nothing more. I guess when you become famous in Hollywood you forget where you come from. So to all the black sheeps hold your heads high and know that god loves us if no one else does. Love peace and happiness.

You have just said what I have been trying to say and deal with forever…..honestly you just saved my life and freed me to know there are others out there like me and recognize it. Thank you thank you thank you for this post. What freedom!!! I think I will celebrate!

Thank you for encouragment when I used to wear rose colored glasses, now I dont and they cant stop talking about me or using my sons fathers family to interact with my son. If you dont like me then please stay away from my child

Thank you for writing this article. I thought I was the only one. Reading this gave me a new sense on what is most important. I’m the black sheep of my family as well. When my cousins and I were all children, I was left behind because I was quiet and nerdy. My mom liked to nag to the other children to get good grades like me, and I felt guilty that they had to put up with my mother’s constant attempts. I soon realized my mom’s good intentions though. Over time, I became enraged with the immoral things that my family has done to each other, and I felt like my family was not loving at all. I concluded last year that I should share what I felt with them. Unfortunately, dislike became hate, as they never saw me complain. And since it was about them, I think I was at fault that I attacked them instead of just expressing my feelings. I don’t know what happened in their heads at the time, but I was really, really sorry. And to this day, they are polite to me and I’m polite to them when we converse, because that is the adult thing to do. But when I try to sit next to them, they move off to another area to sit. And I’m left alone wondering if I was the worst person alive to have family turn against me. The feeling is terrible, and the lack of love really makes me feel unworthy of talking to anyone.

I also considered making them gifts, because crafting is what I do best. I also wanted to do well in college so that they would acknowledge me. But I suppose that wouldn’t change anything.

I do have people that love me though. My parents, my friends, and my boyfriend. They know me for who I am, and they don’t mind listening to what I have to say. Instead of feeling like I must gain acknowledgement from people that I believe I should get it from, I should just love the people that loved me from the start. No one matters more than those who you care for.

I am the youngest of 4 siblings one brother and two sisters. It has been really hard. My brother doesnt have anything to do us at all very harshly judgemental. my sisters and I can only seem to deal with one or the other and not all three. There always has to be an odd man out. I made a big mistake and got caught in the middle of thier hateful relationship with each other and now. I am the one out. Ihave decide to step out of it all togeahter.Now they continue to talk bad about me and my children as if their childrren are perfect and can do no wrong. My oldest sister gets information about me and my daughter from the other sister who is still in the same area and hears things about my daughter and my life then the older sister reports it back to my parents.I am fourty seven years old and it doesnt seem my parent who have relly never been supportive or careing need to know any of my buisness.The sad thing is it has trickled down to our three daughters and although they do hang out togeather its all smiles and giggles untill someone turns their back then here comes the knife. I have the live and let live attitude but they seem to always be trying to discredit me and mine.I have asked the one sister who we have named Brenda star to not dicuss my buisness with anyone but she just cant seem to do it. My other sister does not speak to me at all but when my oldest son goes to her house to visit ( they live in the same town) she always asks “so whats your mom up to to get info out of him.acting like she cares It is so frustrating to me because I have such bad depression and look at other families that care and are open and honest with eachother with out it ripping them into pieces. I have been working on alot of co dependant issues and accepting that this is just the way it is and pray for my family to stop competeing for my parent approval which I feel is the root of the problem. everyone wants to be the good and perfect one in thier eyes cause we never got that approval when we were younger. Its just hard to know we are wasting so much life and time that we could use to be a family. Thanks for writting this article its nice to know I am not alone but I do not feel good about your troubles cause I know how horrible it feels.

I’m the black sheep, for sure. My mother let my grandparents raise me. I grew up with my grandparents and aunt. My aunt had children, and we kind of grew up together. My mother started having kids that she actually wanted. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that I don’t fit in with any of them. My cousins have each other, and I’m out. My sisters have each other, and I’m out. My grandparents died, and my mother still doesn’t like me. I actually can’t even visit her, because my daughter has dog allergies. I asked my mother to watch my children for a night, and she wouldn’t put her dog outside because, “It would make him sad.”