Sometimes life becomes so complicated and busy that we don’t even get time to think about ourselves,.relationships get so complicated that sometimes we feel like undoing the things which we don’t like. Well as I always say…ups and down are part and parcel of the package.

I don’t know how many can relate to me, but when we marry a person we don’t marry him, we get married to the family. Especially when u marry the eldest son…you are the eldest daughter-in-law…   whole n soul responsible for the family’s well being…you can’t think about your individual…need…every act every decision which you make has to be for family’s well being, and when you compromise yourself, your ego and your individual needs. And try to take over the family responsibilities. You realize that…you have lost yourself…amidst all this.

You try to make things better at home. But that would be misunderstood my manipulation…you try to change the people at home like younger kids…about manners and culture then the ego would come by the elders. Most dialogues will be,”we have seen the world…we know what is good n bad…”,”your age is not even half of my married life and you have come to give suggestions to me…” and much more harsher words…I was lucky enough that my mom in law had faced so many problems that she did not wanted me to suffer. And kill my emotions. and but we can see so many variations in one small family. My mom in laws sisters are totally different they nag her. To take control over me. And command me…this is not just my story or confrontation but many. Indian woman…up to a certain extent can relate to me.

If not the relatives then the husband. Indian husbands have not understood the meaning of communication and quality time yet (not every Indian husband is similar. but the cultural infrastructure is basically male dominated…and nobody can divert themselves from their roots…so up to a certain level they all are same…except few exceptional)…god knows when will they understand that a woman needs to talk when something goes wrong in a relationship. Whenever we talk. They cut it…deliberately…saying its crap…sometimes it happened to me…in spite of being love marriage.., I have seen my sister in laws, my mom  though my dad was a wonderful person but at times. Men tend. To get irritated by…the lets talk thing.., women should understand that when men are upset they tend to pull away. and they think about it, even if they regret their act they may not apologies as the huge male ego….stands still like mount Everest which says you are a man, you cannot come one step down. I think. This is one negative point in women. All women not just Indian women.

Due to a similar complicated situation in my life. I almost lost myself. And could find a way to release the energy which got accumulated in me due to the anger. Which was again caused by not able to express my emotions openly and finally I came here…where I can be myself, express my thoughts and opinions with no restrictions…where people…actually give importance to opinions,ideas,thoughts,suggestions…and innovation..People here inspire others. And I definitely get inspired. Reading my friends at Triond…and hence this long…displaced, disorganised…apology to all my Triond friends

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