Dear Leanne,

I’m lacking affection in my long term relationship of 10 years. I love him, he loves me, but I feel like his room mate. I need more. What to do?

Sincerely,

Untouched

Dear, Untouched,

You two are in need of a serious sit down. The thought of a relationship that is not based on sex is a great concept, one we all dream of. However the truth is, we all have needs that need to be met from time to time. And the touch from the person you love even in the form of hand holding or a peck on the cheek is the key to any successful relationship. 

It’s not uncommon for people to grow apart, for the spark to fade. But it’s something that will require communication on both parts to resolve. Sit him down and talk to him. Maybe there is something that is bothering him to the point he has put up a wall.

If the conclusion is made that the spark has simply fizzled and you need to find your needed affection elsewhere, cut the ties to him first. Guys are in general a hassle, you don’t need to be wrapped up with two issues at the same time.

You’re not alone,

Leanne

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