Abuse: Watching From the Outside In

Alaina Ellington on Sep 16, 2008

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Inspired by a friend who is choosing to stay in a very emotionally and physically abusive relationship. I have tried everything to help her and all I have left is prayer. I ask you, if you believe, can you please pray that God will open her eyes and give her the strength and courage to leave for good? I greatly appreciate it.

How can you love someone
and hate them at the same time
how can you sit by
and let them take you for everything
you can see what’s going on
but are so blind
you hide behind your wall
wishing you were behind mine
feeling so cold
and so alone
why can’t you see
you aren’t at home
home is warm and loving
not cold and dark
you are in an emotional pit
riding a roller coaster
that leads to a black abyss
the fights are never ending
bruises never healing
wounds so deep
they cut in to you in your sleep
and here I am
crying out to you
trying to save you
trying to help you
as I start to realize
helping you can not be done
you can’t help someone who doesn’t want help
you can’t make them see
and so your pain slowly becomes mine
watching you deprive yourself
of all the joy that could be yours
my last words to you were
“I’m here if you need me”
and still you chose to stay
I got you to leave
but only for a day
you are under his spell
so very deep
without saying a word
you are his to keep
he tells you he doesn’t love you
and you choose not to listen
instead you fantasize
and imagine what you aren’t missing
if this is where you choose to be
I want you to know
you can always run to me
when you start to see clearly
I’ll be there
I can hold your hand
and help you stand
give you shelter
and show you love
until then
I will pray

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keta on Sep 16, 2008
nice poem, i will pray for her too.
Lady Syxess on Sep 18, 2008
What a lovely poem. I once stayed in an abusive relationship because the guy at the time manipulated me into questioning the actions of my friends and family and making me believe he was the only one who truly cared for me.Hard to explain but abusers often crush victims’ self esteem and lead them to believe that their love is the best ‘love’ and the victim should be greatful for it. I will pray for your friend but she needs to see her life in a different light and feel she can survive without her partner for herself first and then God will do the rest, as he did for me.
visionvixen on Sep 19, 2008
nice poem i really liked it that’s what some of these ladies out here need to read but all we can do is stick by their side and hope one day they will leave and us as friends will be there for them i was in an abusive relationship for about 6 years and i finally left i am doing better but it sticks in the children minds not good for them i know that as well.
keep writing it is good for people to read it will help someone
Eden Emersen on Oct 15, 2008
Thoughts and prayers to your friend. . .how’s she doing now?
Jenysie on Oct 15, 2008
I got her to leave for two days, however she ended up lying to me and going back to him. She says all is well with them now, but my thoughts are “for how long!” I am afraid that she may just be saying that considering all the things he has done to her.
Thank you for your kind words, thoughts, and prayers! It means a lot!
Glynis Smy on Jan 13, 2009
Some people are weak, and they need strong friends such as you to support them. One day she will open her eyes I am sure. I hope she finds the strength. Good poem for a friend.
Sylph on Jan 13, 2009
I’m in a similar situation with a friend. Sometimes you just want to strangle her to get her to understand that she’s better than some scumbag. I really enjoy your writing. Very well done.
renita on Jan 13, 2009
Hey I’ve been there to the point of being beatened so bad as to have emergency surgery and everything else. Prayer is what she needs, and no one can make her mind up except her. I stayed with it for 8 years and can relate to what she is going through. If you need me I’m here. You can tell her that also.
Mr Ghaz on Jan 14, 2009
Great Poem! I really enjoy reading your work. Well done!
hfj on Mar 18, 2009
Very powerful piece. These relationships always end tragicly. I’m sorry for your friend and what she is going through. You can only hope that one day she will wake up and realize that there is a much better life out there than the one she is living with this coward. These so called men need to be locked up in a jail cell for 24 hour with the baddest man in town, and receive the same abuse they are giving their wives or girlfriends. After about three or four of these sessions, they will never lay another hand on the little gal, unless they want to spend another 24 hours with mean Joe Green again. Well done.

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