I’m in this situation

And I don’t know how I got here

I was on the other side of the road

But I reversed out of fear

“Fear of losing what?”

I know….this I ask myself constantly

I wanted him back, so I thought,

But the games still remain

I can’t see a day-light of happiness

Without being accused of being here or there

I miss the happiness I felt on the other side

For the peace I felt within

But I turned back because

I looked way out

To a Mirage I saw of Love and Chance

Although I try to keep the faith

That one day he’ll change

Somehow this dream seems real insane

There could be many reasons for a persons’ mistrust. Three major reasons that come to mind would be personal insecurity, infidelity, and the fear of reciprocity.   To overcome the obstacle of mistrust, one must first admit that it exists, then, I strongly suggest counseling to address the reasons of mistrust if one chooses to remain in the relationship.   You must also remember that trust is earned. Once it’s lost, it takes much effort to obtain it once again, if ever.

Infidelity 

If for reasons of infidelity, it may be easier rekindle the line of trust by extra effort on the offenders’ part.  Whatever is needed for the victim in this situation, you may have to swallow the bullet and just do it (especially in a marriage).  Again, you need to seriously seek counseling because once the line of trust is broken, the chances of it even “partially” coming back is “slim-next to none”.  Yes, God can do all things and even work a miracle in your relationship, but first discover if this is where and who you are suppose to be with. Ask the question, “Is this the mate that you pre-destined for me God?”   Ask God to show you and to let His desires become strongly yours regarding your relationship (Proverbs 16:3).

Personal Insecurity and Fear of Reciprocity

On the other hand, the issues of personal insecurity and fear of reciprocity are a bit different in the approach of restoration within a relationship.  When a partner is being accused without reason as a result of personal insecurity, it is emotional abuse and it is very difficult to deal with anyone victimized by their past.  Accuser, you must “Let it Go!” Or, your mate might be gone!