Black Hole of Need

ashan1614 on Mar 10, 2011

Tags: black hole, blackhole, co-dependency, darkness, hero, need, needy, Relationships, rescue, Vacuum

I’ve written many poems and articles about people who are takers. I decided to take a look at the people who continue to give. Is their need to be needed just as great as (if not greater than) the needs of those they continually try to help? This is a brief look into co-dependent relationships and their destructive consequences.

I saw this comic and thought it was quite funny at first. Then I thought about it some more… What about all the “needy” people out there and more so, what happens to those who are always running to their rescue?

Simple enough at the start

I wanted to be the one someone

You could always count on

The one friend who

Would never let you down

I needed to be needed

How could I have known the depth

The breadth of the black hole

That is your need

Sucking me into the vortex

There is no escape for me

I needed to play the hero

The only one who could save you

With each rescue

I am plunged ever deeper

Into darkness, I can’t see a way out

My world inverted, spinning

Off its axis, hurled into space

Where your endless need and my need

To be needed collide and explode

Creating the vacuum that

Pulls us both into the void

Of nothingness

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elnavann on Mar 10, 2011
Hi – this is really good – the poem and the theme.
Heloni Lynn on Mar 10, 2011
Nice share thanks
buenavida on Mar 10, 2011
In many cases – maybe this is true..!?:)
Jimmy Shilaho on Mar 10, 2011
Black hole of need? One has to really push her mind a little to come up with that but I think I identify with what you are suggesting.
Likha on Mar 11, 2011
It’s a give and take for a friendship or any relationship to work. It needs a balance or else it wouldn’t be called a friendship or relationship at all.
Jerry Bradford aka Jerry Atrixx on Mar 11, 2011
Don\’t stop loving and caring. It makes you and those like you special.
tanny15 on Mar 11, 2011
nice share
Joe Vizzacco on Mar 11, 2011
Nice share…I have a friend that married his “Black Hole”…why he stays with her I just don’t get understand,because he constantly complains about her…maybe that is a lesson of “True Love” it has to be there is no other explanation…
gaby7 on Mar 11, 2011
There comes a time when we really want to be needed just like we need back the special people in our lives-unfortunately, it doesn’t go on like that-and yes, it hurts so bad! A very poignant piece here Ashan!
ashan1614 on Mar 11, 2011
Thanks to everyone for your insightful comments. I believe there is a fine line between helping someone and being an enabler; allowing them to continue to depend on others rather than standing on their own two feet.
Adrn0919 on Mar 11, 2011
What is so scary is that at this time in my life I can relate. A great descriptive poem I only wish you had provided a way out. (-;
Francois Hagnere on Mar 12, 2011
We all need friendship. Many of us feel this black hole. A very meaningful poem. Cheers Andrea.
FX777222999 on Mar 12, 2011
Vivid imagery of a poem, and your lines speaks for itself.
UncleSammy on Mar 12, 2011
Nice share
foxpete88 on Mar 13, 2011
nice share. thanks.-
happydoodlegirl on Mar 14, 2011
awesome theme..the 1st picture is funny..hahaha. Good job!
CA Johnson on Mar 21, 2011
I really loved your poem. I can relate to it right now because I have been in that position where I have to be the giver. I do not mind helping people, but it does get to me sometimes. I do tend to put my own needs aside to help others.

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