How are You?

Paula Mitchell Bentley on Sep 7, 2008

Tags: Baby, child, death, grief, loss, miscarriage, poem, Poetry, sadness

Reflecting on grief and death of a child. Societal pressures to pretend every thing’s okay. Sometimes things just aren’t.

I say I’m fine, with a smile on my face.
I wonder if I’ll ever get out of this place.
I feel like I’m stuck here, grief weighing down on me.
I wonder if I’ll have another, if it’s meant to be.
I keep saying everything’s okay…
I wonder if it will be one day.
I wish I could have held that baby boy in my arms.
I would have kept him safe from all harm.
Why did he have to die?
Whenever someone asks me how I am
I have to lie
and say I’m good.
Sometimes I wonder if I should.

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laura on Sep 15, 2008
You write very well, I can relate to this as I had a miscarriage this past week and I feel like I am empty inside but to everyone else I am okay because that’s what I pretend to be… I wish you the best and god bless
Paula Mitchell-Bentley on Sep 16, 2008
I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for your comments. It’s alot easier to cry alone.
gabbic1219 on Nov 10, 2008
it is strange as i go down to your work and something prompt me to hit this one…. as u commented on the very sad one i did for our lost children…i am so sorry for your loss and it is something im sure you will carry forever,for e was your son,od bless!abbi
Sue Crosby on Dec 21, 2008
Having just posted a letter to my miscarried baby i decided to take a look around and see if anyone else felt the same way. Its sad that people do, as it means they have gone through the same things, but it is nice to know that we are not alone. Please have hope that you will someday have a child. i now have 4 wonderful children even though i suffered 13 miscarriages in total. take care
Star27 on Feb 11, 2009
I found this hard to read as you mentioned so much of how I used to feel and still do. So sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like to pretend you are ok to those around you, it may help them but it won’t help you. Very lovely writing about a very sad subject

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