I have always believed there is a difference between judging someones actions as opposed to actually judging the person.
If you ask my opinion on something you have done, you are by default asking me to make a judgement. Either I will agree with you or I won’t. Just because I may not agree with you, don’t hide behind the “Don’t Judge Me” defense.
If you didn’t want my opinion (which again is based on my own personal judgement of the topic at hand), then don’t ask.
Just because I don’t agree with you, that doesn’t mean I think you are inherently a bad person. It isn’t a reflection of my opinion of your character.
Futhermore, just because someone doesn’t “take your side” in a situation, don’t accuse them of judging you. If they are a true friend and respect you as such, they will be honest with you, even if it means hurting your feelings or making you mad.
There are those who hide behind “Well I don’t want to judge” for no other reason than to avoid having to get involved. That’s a cop out. If you don’t want to get involved, just say so.
The only way to avoid “judging” people is to never ever speak an opinion. If you aren’t afraid to speak your mind, then be prepared to be accused of judging by people who don’t know what the word actually means.
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