Something good can be said of everyone. We have only to say it.
My mother once said, “Whenever I think something nice about a person, I tell him. I might never have another chance.” Why do we leave some pleasant truths unsaid when they could make the person happy? Human beings need a little attention every now and then. It’s a basic human need. Praise and encouragement can boost one’s self-confidence. When given to a child in his early years, it unleashes potentials that enable him to be the best person he can be. Children are hungry for appreciation. When they are deprived of this need, it can do irreparable damage to the growth of character, a disaster that can linger for a lifetime.
We need to be commended in the same manner that we must know how to commend. Giving compliments is an art. Like any art, there are techniques to learn; a right way to do it. I have had a good share of compliments in my life but I am not an expert in complimenting. Suffice it to say, I am slowly learning as I teach, handle people and meet friends on this site. Here are some lessons I try to put to work not only on Triond but in my day-to-day life.
Realize the human need for praise.
Understanding the impact and power of praise is essential. Praise can do wonders to a person specially to one who has very low self-esteem. Praise that emanates from the heart is like water that helps the buds to bloom into attractive flowers spreading their fragrance and in the process making many others happy. A poor plant that is withering and about to die is revived by praise given not once but many times. Many people I handle need praise. They need to be treated with respect and dignity. The same is true on this site. Of this I am sure – if people are praised, we may have nothing special. However, if people are not praised, we will never have anything special.
Use discernment and originality.
The heap of assorted works I view on a regular basis gives me a good training in finding the praiseworthy in each work, author included. The uniqueness in each one deserves the praise or positive comment that it distinctly deserves. Praising in general terms like “nice”, “good”, “great” is certainly pleasing but less effective than being specific or original. “Yours is the finest read I’ve had today” or “You are so keen and passionate about this subject” makes the praise more credible and makes the work or person stand out as important to you.
nice work likha.. 
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Sorry, I meant well done on the weekly Awards. 
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