The other night I was having a conversation with a narcissist who claimed that he would give me his heart until we had intercourse and then he will snatch it right back. He claimed that he would be a memory to me and that I would be vitiated by the malignant disposal of my emotions and ego that it would take years to recover from his narcissistic abuse.  

                       He was insulting; he enjoyed playing with women’s emotions. He sent me a conversation he had with an ex-girlfriend who claimed that he had dumped her on line …What a piece of work?

                 Based on the information exposed from the conversation with the ex: I concluded that she was (like most women still feeling the pangs from the poisonous fang of the narcissist). She was vulnerable and a primary prey for this particular predator.  She was far from being outside of his clutches. 

                      The narcissist knew this and based on his responses to my questions on his relationship with her, he took great pleasure in knowing that she was still enamored with him. He was ecstatic by the fact that she was incensed at his actions. He took great pleasure in stringing her along and playing with her feelings. This narcissist was a master manipulator.  He enjoyed playing with this woman’s feelings and took great pleasure in irritating her.

                        No amount of rationalization on my part or hers could convince the narcissist to change his sadistic and amoral ways. I could not convince him to empathize with the feelings of the woman, who he had engaged intimately and discarded ruthlessly. He regarded our perception of him as a testament to our weakness and his ultimate superiority.

                  My interaction with his narcissist has become central part of my study of narcissism and emotionally unavailable men. I have conceded that he is a full blown narcissist; he lacks conscience and seems to derive extreme pleasure form frustrating women and hurting them emotionally. For this particular narcissist there is not a greater pleasure than having sex with women and then falling off the face of the earth.