I always hear young girls and women talk about how heartless young men are nowadays and I am assuming most readers have heard this as well. “They lack emotions, grow even more distant after sex is involved, and are afraid of commitment”, according to many young women. Are they really afraid or do they just not want a relationship? I must point out as well that I have more than one female friend who says she isn’t interested in a relationship. Also, let’s give the sweethearts out there some credit. Nice and respectful young men may seem to come far and few in between, in the opinions of many young women, but they do exist. 

Relationships involve plenty of effort on both parts. Anyone who is in a healthy long lasting relationship can testify to this statement. Nowadays, it seems that somehow there are millions of young men and women, particularly college and university students, who choose to take the opposite route of becoming involved in a relationship, which used to firstly involve dating and getting to know your partner. Many believe hooking up is the simple answer to satisfying their needs. Hmm…, but is “hooking up” really fulfilling the desires of young people nowadays, or are there underlying complications and issues waiting to be unveiled? No, I am not just talking about sexually transmitted diseases. I believe a non-fiction story will better explain the terrible implications “hooking-up” and continual hook-ups, also known as “friends with benefits” can have on the lives of young adults.  

Let’s set the scene shall we?  It’s a Friday night at a university pub, sometime after midnight. A young lady, let’s call her Kim, looks around disgusted by all of the young men and women who are repeatedly switching dance partners, or should we say “grind partners”? Sure, it is okay to dance and have fun, but Kim knew that many of these girls and guys wanted and expected more than that. She glanced across the room and saw one of her best friends dancing with two guys. “That’s where Becky went!” she thought. Kim danced her way over to Becky and the guys who were dancing with her friend tried to get her to dance with them by grabbing her butt. “Smooth move”, she thought while talking to Becky, who clearly hadn’t been drinking and seemed to be enjoying herself. “I’m gonna go back upstairs (to her dorm room)”, whispered Kim. Becky told Kim she would see her in the morning.