There are no words that can be comforting enough, nor are there any specific remedies on how each of us deal on a personal level with the news of a loved one’s passing. Some people may never actually fully heal from the wounds caused during the loss of someone so dear and close to our hearts.

We can often offer a loving caress of our arm, across the other family members’ back, or maybe even offer a warm, yet gentle embrace, yet nothing, and I repeat nothing, will change the fate of that special someone who has already passed away.

We are all there at some point or another in our lives where we are approached by another relative, friend, or possibly even somebody that you have been acquainted with, whom comes forth bearing the grim news of somebody who has either passed away so suddenly, or somebody who may have been aging, and who has taken a turn for the worst.

No matter how prepared we seem to think we are propr to losing them, and no matter how young, or how old this individual may be, it never seems to be any easier to deal with the loss of losing somebody we unconditionally love.

Recently, I myself, have been informed of my ninety year old, ailing Grandmother being rushed to the emergency room from her nursing home, due to difficulty breathing, that progressed into her developing pneumonia. I was extremely worried for her over all well- being, considering that she was ninety years young, and that she has already had a few falls and broke her hip, I automatically assumed, she’s a strong women, and she will pull through this illness.

A few days had gone by, and I got the dreaded news that my grandmother was declining at a more rapid pace than she had been, prior to being admitted to the hospital. Several other members of the family had been discussing the terms and medical conditions that she had placed into her hospital record. The dreaded DNR.

DNR is a term used when individuals fall ill, and wish to not be rescessitated in the event that a medical emergency does arrise. I unfortunetly was present in the room when I witnessed my Grandfather endure his last breath during his final days while being admitted to hospital following dementia, as well as, he too had developed pneumonia in his later, and most frail stages of life. DNR is a term often discussed by the person’s Power Of Attorney, and whom wish for their loved one not to endure any further suffering by the terminal illness, and is applied to the medical information that is stored into