Jamaican men, wives and sweet hearts: Meet Mrs. Insecure

              Last year I had a very scary yet intriguing experience with this older well off guy who became my friend overnight. Apparently he was having problems in his marriage and I had become somewhat of a therapist for him. I must admit that we had begun to spend an inordinate amount of time together and I suspected that he was falling in love/lust with me. 

                  He was a great guy; I felt sorry for him and for what his nagging, aggressive and belligerent wife was putting him through. We had become good friends but to tell you the truth I was not sexual attracted to him. I saw him as only a friend. An older man who appeared to be falling in love with me and I knew that was not good.

                       It was three weeks after we met and began spending an enormous amount of time together when I received a call from a woman who cursed me out for taking her husband. She called me “human fecal matter” and a little strumpet. I hung my phone up feeling indignant for being bashed for keeping a married man. Additionally I was very upset with my friend because he was unable to secure my private line that I gave to him. The woman kept calling my phone and hurling threats and profanities at me. I decided that I would change my number. Then I second thought it and decided that this was my private line and I would not allow an insecure, overwrought, bellicose woman to dictate whether or not I should keep my phone number since people who meant the most to me had this number. Why should they pay for her inability to feel secure in her marriage?

                         She called and I told her along with a barrage of expletives to never call my phone again and deal with the issues that she is facing in her marriage because I am not the enemy.  I explained to her that the cure for her marriage was not attacking me because if she gets rid of me with threats and do not solve the inherent problems in her marriage she will have several other women to deal with in the future. She needs to confront her husband and not me because I was harmless. I told her to cease contacting me and handle her relational problems like a grown woman and not a lovelorn teenager. I did not hear from her again.