Another tragedy, I was at the hospital attending to my mother when the police brought the corpse of my father. He could not stand the humiliation that was coming to him as a result of his evil act. He then shot himself on his head. Before he took his life he dropped this suicide note and it reads, “My dear family, I am sorry for this evil that I have done. I have brought shame and pains to you. I wanted to be a good father but the devil turned me into a monster. He took the best part of me and gave his ugly part. I have become a monster. This monster can no longer live among you. I am sorry that I have to end my life this way. I have no one to blame but myself. Please, my daughter forgive me. Please, my family forgive me. Good bye…”. Now I do not know what to do. I do not know where to face.

Discussion Points

1. What will make a man to go after his daughter?
2. What do you think the writer should do to the pregnancy? Why?
3. What is your advice to the writer and to other girls out there?

Comments

Proverbs 17: 6 says “Children’s children are the crown of old men. And the glory of children is their father”. But today what do we see and hear? Fathers that brought shame and pains to their children. Though it is easy to accuse the devil of pushing one into evil acts but one allowed it. If you allow the devil to give you decision then he shall also give you direction. And the direction is always the wrong one. Your evil heart desire will always attract evil to you.

Selfishness is one of the evil weapons that pushes weak fathers to go after their daughters. They admire the beauty of their daughters and agree with the devil that no other man would have their daughter but them. A daughter should not be closer to her father than to her mother. She should learn from her mother while sons should learn from their fathers the role each should play in family building. The mothers that distance themselves from their daughters have to be blamed for what befalls on them. And secondly, a mother that fails as a wife always pushes her daughter to her husband. You are not close to your husband, you allow your daughter to take your place. You have a strong blame for what happened. Some mothers are just too busy to be there for their husbands and for their daughters. There are questions pertaining to womanhood that a daughter supposed to ask only her mother. A daughter is pregnant for four months her mother did not know. So what kind of mother are you? Sexual molestation of children and girls can be reduced by mothers. You have to be there spiritually and physically for the children mostly your daughters, monitor them. Were you not the one who carried that child in your womb for nine months and breast fed her? I am not saying that fathers should not be close to their daughters but they should push their daughters to their mothers to learn what pertain to women. As they grow up there are numerous questions about sex, menstruation, pregnancy, pre-natal and post-natal care going on in their minds. Turn away your eyes from assessing your daughter’s breasts and private parts. Order her to cover up properly. Girls be decent in your dressing. Do not expose your breasts and private parts before everyone especially before your father, brothers, uncles and cousins. Cover up!

The writer is already carrying a child in her with a destiny. Do not abort the pregnancy, give birth to the child and give him for adoption if you cannot face him. Then move on with your life.