My childhood experience has greatly influenced the building of confidence that I established for myself. Born in a less fortunate family, my resources were limited to only what my parents can provide me.

My skin was dark due to frequent exposure to the sun. My clothes and school uniforms were all hand-me-downs, so they’re old and worn out. I can’t wear shoes because I didn’t have any so I have to stick with my old slippers. My hair was dry because I used to wash it with detergent soap. In addition to that, I’m not tall, my nose is flat and my lips are a bit thicker than normal. In short, my looks was a total disaster. Thank God, I have brains. Though I was shy and rarely talks, my teachers noticed that I am one smart kid. And since most of the grades at that time were based on written exams, I was able to get high grades and I even finished primary school with flying colors. And so how was I able to build my confidence from these? Read and learn below.

1.    Do some reflections. First, it is important to be aware of what the problem is. When I reached puberty, I became more conscious about my looks. Because I don’t look nearly as good as everybody else, I became extremely shy and never initiated to start friendship. When I realized that I am not satisfied with my life, I started to think. What’s wrong with me? What’s making me feel down? Why don’t I have friends? Why am I not happy? It all boiled down to the fact that all I’m lacking was self-esteem.

2.    Recognize your fears and insecurities. Knowing and evaluating the source/s of problem is the next step to solve it. So, I listed down all my insecurities. I knew I have problems with my looks. I look terrible and I feel terrible. Another was the fact that I don’t have the money. As a teenager, I felt bad that I can’t go out with my classmates and have fun because I just can’t afford it. Lastly, because I never had a chance and I never attempted to explore my capabilities, I didn’t know what talents were or if there were any.