I know this letter comes too late.  I am so sorry for that.  It’s been quite a while that my mother kept bugging me to write you a letter.  I’ve been wanting to write to you but I just could not bring myself to do it somehow.  It is not because I am busy, although I really am, up to this very minute that I am writing this letter; no, I cannot be too busy to somehow bring down everything I am doing to write you a letter to somehow comfort you at probably one of the lowest times of your life.  I think it is more because it’s really very hard to write a condolence letter to tell you how sorry we are that your beloved husband has finally been called to rest at God’s bosom.  The truth is, I really do not know what to say at a time like this.  Somehow, sorry is not enough.  It’s totally lacking of the grief that we feel at his passing away.  No word is sufficient enough to lessen the pain inside your heart for your loss.

My mom said, ‘Write your Aunt  a letter!”.  But what exactly will I tell you.  It’s really very hard because distance keep us apart.  There are certain moments when actions can truly expressed what words cannot.  Sometimes words are not necessary to convey what we feel.

Oh, Auntie, how we wish that we all could be there close beside you; to hold your hand, to pat your back, to hug you tight and to cry with you; To somehow make you feel that we are here for you and that you are loved and truly not alone.

I know that losing a dear husband is really very hard.  I have seen my mother when she lost my father.  She was in denial for quite some time.  She still talks to him as if he was there.  She still calls him to eat, and sometimes asking him for his approval on certain things.  She still tries to include him in her life; probably because my father is my mother’s life.  He was her best friend, her ally and will always be her knight in shining armor.  Many people will laugh at her attitude, but if only they understand.  We really never lose the ones we love even if death has taken them away.  For the ones we love become a part of us.  They are inside our hearts and our thoughts and they will live within us forever.

Condolence to you  and to your whole clan!  I know it is not enough, but it’s all we have.