Being fair and being good, do not guarantee fairness or goodness. No one can expect being spared by a bull just because one does not eat beef. This is a rule that must be accepted by everyone. Sometimes asking why we fail despite all our efforts to succeed, or why we suffer injustice no matter how much we try to live a just life is like punching the moon. Simply there is no answer, and such reality doubles the pain. But then, even the acceptance of this rule is already the hardest that can be ever experienced by man.

            Life is a race with time, and the more we delay accepting failures as they are, the more that our agony is prolonged and at the same time the remaining span for any happiness is shortened. It is understandable, that we all desire perfection in so far as freedom from all forms of pains and failures is concerned. We may perhaps provide some room for possible mistakes but then we all just have some things in life that in them, we could not almost accept any form of shortcomings. One for example may find materials deprivation more acceptable than a spouse’s infidelity. Others may see luxury as their utmost goal over a healthy body; while some may rather choose death rather than live in indignity and ridicule. And others still may prefer a lifetime of unhappy marriage than seeing their children victimized by the stigma of a broken home.

            In all these, and in other choices we make, we always view what could be compromised and what are not negotiable. But then, when the unexpected happens, when the very thing we could not even imagine occurs, we are instantly lost. Accepting them is really hard. But alas, one is left with no other choice if only he wishes to continue living – to swallow exactly what one abhors most. And the greatest among the ironies is to be told that life is a gift, that challenges or pains are given to man to test him; or that whatever suffering he is in, it is exactly proportionate to his ability to overcome them. At times, these statements just don’t help in anyway. They even add to the pain of those who suffer rather than offer any tiny amount of relief.

            Probably, the best way to accept such things is by feeling the reality of pain, and by looking into the fact that there are people who are suffering the same or even worse. And that plainly, it is one’s inescapable reality.