Being Their Best

One of the responsibilities we have is to support ourselves and others in living at our highest and be the best. Whether we’re partners, parents,friends or leaders, it’s incumbent upon us to help others to live as close to their unique potential as we can.

Everything we say and do, we’re influencing – positively or negatively – the people we very care about. The ideal is to do this with consideration and intention. Here you can help other see and realize the best that’s within them.

Believe

We all have self-doubts from time to time. Our confidence is shaken. We lack the faith in our talents and skills to go for an important or launch a new initiative. Having someone believe in you at these times is priceless. The stories of great men and women are saturated with examples of someone who believed in them even when they didn’t fully believe in themselves.

Encourage

“You can do it.” “I know you can.” These are words that are all too infrequently voiced. Sincere encouragement can go a long way in helping someone stay the course. The more specific you are, the better the results. “I remember when you got through your slum last year and winning the sales contest. “I’m willing to bet that you’ll do even better this time.”

Expect

We’re often not to get our hopes up. We’re encouraged to have REALISTIC expectations. But when it comes to helping others operate at their best, we sometimes have to up-level our expectations. This can be taken to extremes, but there are many times when a lecturer, a parent or even a boss has required more of us than we thought we were capable. And we’ve risen to the challenge which enabled us to see further than before.

Tell the Truth

And tell it with compassion. We often avoid telling the truth because we don’t want to upset anyone. We want to be nice. But telling the truth is a loving act. You may be the only person who can or will say to another what needs to be said. And you can confront someone without being combative.

Role Model

One of the best way we influence is by our own actions. Who we are speaks much more loudly than what we say. Don’t think that people aren’t watching you. And they’re registering everything about you consciously and unconsciously. We automatically emulate our role models. And we’re ALL role models to someone so let’s be good ones.

Challenge

The world “challenge” has some negative connotations. The meaning we’re using here is, “a test of one’s abilities or resources in a demanding but stimulating undertaking.” We all need to be challenged from time to time. Doing it for another is an art form. Go too far and it will backfire. Go to easy and you will appear patronizing. Remind people of their commitment to being their best and state your challenge. “I challenge you to overcome these unimportant opinions and get on with the real task at hand, get the job done, make the commitment.”

Good Questions

A good therapist or coach doesn’t tell their clients what to do. They ask good questions in order for the clients to understand themselves better, to get clear on what the issue is and from there to make good choices. You can do the same. By asking elegant questions, you cause people to think and come up with solutions. They’ll appreciate it.

Acknowledge

You  will find what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for the best in someone, you’ll see it. If you’re looking for their failings, you’ll see those. Catch people doing things right and tell them. When we acknowledge the good deeds of others, they tend to do more of them. Send a card. Write a note.  Give them a call. Praise them in front of others u know.

Spend Time

We love what we give our time to. By devoting your most precious resource (time) to another individual, you’re showing them that you truly value them and your relationship. Invest time in your relationship, it’s what life is made of.