When you’re in a relationship and you break up with a guy/girl, I wonder if it is because they are a control freak. However, often I think that it is us who are the control freaks because we are trying to cope with relationships since we are usually alone. In other words, we are often living the single life and just when we meet a guy/girl, our control freak self comes out because we think that they are going to run our lives; if it gets serious that is. Yet, it doesn’t explain why relationships to control freaks works out. I mean, why can’t we adapt our lives to be in this relationship because who knows, they might be the one? I know that you are all thinking, “What do you know about relationships, you’re still single?”, “Maybe you are a control freak and you’re defending your kind.” Well, I may not know a lot about relationships but I wonder about control freaks and why they become that way. Let’s start from the beginning.

I was on my favorite chat website looking for potential dates within my local area when I happened to stop on the right guy. He was very cute, had a great personality, and was in the market. However, there was a catch and I couldn’t figure it out what it was until I clicked to view his full profile. I just wanted to note that in the website, it gives you very little information on a person until you click on full profile to view their name, interests, “about me”, and common interests. As I waited for his full profile to upload, I couldn’t help but wonder if I could date him. The page finally uploaded and it showed his “About me” section and all my dreams of being with him crumbled.

It stated that he was in four previous relationships and had his heart broken all four times. He added that now he is looking for another relationship but he has some criteria in order to be in a relationship with him. The criteria were: No going out with friends unless he goes out with you, no checking out other guys, no handing out phone number, no flirting, etc. I couldn’t believe how right my intuition was about this guy. Furthermore, I couldn’t believe that he was being so strict and that he was 27 and already had four “serious” (he said that) relationships. How could this guy be so cute, have a great personality, yet be such a control freak?