Delusion is defined by Merriam-Webster as the persistent false psychotic belief regarding the self or persons or objects outside the self that is maintained despite indisputable evidence to the contrary; also : the abnormal state marked by such beliefs.  Now imagine that a person has built them self a perfect little fishbowl.  In this fishbowl are all the things they have made to make them self believe they are so they can be the best wife, mother nothing can possable be their fault.   They do no wrong nor do they see any of their own faults and responsibilities as these things don’t fit in ther perfect little fishbowl.

 Not only do they only see what they want to see on the inside of the fishbowl they also see things outside the fish bowl in the same distorted way. When looking through the glass of the fishbowl they can pick and chose how they want to view anything that goes down. So even if they start an issue due to not following directions or rules they will only see what THEY think everyone has done wrong especially what will make them look the victim.   Unfortunately, these people and their delusions’ often hurt the very people they profess to love by not seeing anything through the eyes of anyone else but their own distorted view.  

Now imagine this person is a mother of four children.  She has made poor choices ever since she decided to screw around on her husband.  Of course he forcered her to do that as well.  She lived through 15 years of hell and in her eyes its still not over. Her children hear this and wonder what they did to make her life such a horable time. She tries to conform the children to her bowl with out concern of their welfare of emotional state.  She has chosen her new husband and child as the main focus of her new fishbowl. No matter what the children say to her they are not allowed to be upset with her.  Thats left for dad to deal with becasue she can’t be bothered by how the children feel. 

This leaves loved ones epically children trying to reason with someone that is unreasonable.  These loved ones actually care about this delusional person more then they will ever know. If the loved ones tries to pursuit reality the only thing does is to make the person in the fish bowl tell them how much they are wrong and have no idea.  Many times people are begging for the fishbowl to be broken and want that person to join the reality of what’s going on in their life only to be disappointed with lies and accusations about what actually happened.  Leaving the loved ones dazed confused and hurt.

 This perfect fishbowl that she lives in is her only life and her own reality.  However, when true reality breaks through the fish bowl she gets ugly with every one that tries to show her how much she is missing out on things in the real word.  The more people that tell her she is wrong it matters not, judges, parenting coordinators and even therapists have told her but she gets everyone to believe her view till things start falling apart.  Maybe one day the pursuit of reality will attract her enough to come out of the fish bowl to see what she really is doing and how much she is missing out.