This was what i posted on facebook May 10, 2011 and i was sick and tired of people worrying about others opinion of themselves and instances where i had to censor my opinions because i was afraid of the fall out and reactions from others.

 I posted on Facebook  ”There is one thing in life i know and it is that you cant stop people from saying things about you. if you live your life thinking about people;s opinion of you then you wont get very far and ur self esteem and destiny will be forever at the mercy of what comes out of anothers mouth”

  People are always going to talk. Napoleoon Hill said in his book :think and grow rich that “opinions are the cheapest commodities”. Magazines, Newspapers and your next door nieghbour will always offer advice and perspectives on how they think that you should live your life and what they ultimately think is best for you whether you want to hear it or not.

Even if you choose not to entertain their opinions, you are sometimes force to consider the possibilities of what they are saying and how if so be the case, how it could transcend your life one way or the other. It is easy to become affected by people’s opinions since we want social validation, we want people to value us and like us and think us deserving of their companionship and praise…A lot of times conforming to the ideals of the tribe is far easier than choosing to be individualistic and stick it out on your own.

  what you cannot do is to live your life for public image. Where the value of your existence is monitored and regulated by external perspectives. You must become self sufficient and autonomous to the point where you can sieve out information being relayed to you. you digest what is relevant and execrate what you do not need. Often times when people say things about you, it is mixed with their egostistical opinions of you. It is often an attempt to make themselves look good. Very Few people who give advices care about ones wellbeing, they simply want a one up on you to say that they can steer another human being. Others talk simply because they are garrulous and their arguments often lack sincerity or profundity.

    The people who do not share or espouse flattering opinions of you, often do so because they simply dont have a life. They get entertainment, validation and intrigue from your life. The live to feed off your drama and life experiences. They try to tear down your self and public image so that they can feel good about their medicore lives and low coun achievements.

  Some people might say that sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never. Nothing beats down a person than hurtful words. People begin wars and massacres ensue because of spoken malicious or ominous words. How many individuals are emotionally devastated due to being told by someone they care deeply about that the object of their affection does not love them anymore. Words do hurt and opinions do shape the life of a person. It is natural for one to follow a particular perspective until they can shape ideologies of their own but do not allow yourself to become hogwashed by people’s opinion that you loose sight your individual perspectives.