Many people who come across as boring and unfocused were not rewarded
during their formative years for speaking with certainly or decisiveness. As a result,
they’ve come to believe that the best way to get along in life was to stay “under the
radar,” and to never appear too committed to anything.
That’s a good way to get along, okay, if you don’t mind being completely devoid of
charisma…and all the benefits that charisma brings.
If you’d rather do more than just get along, if you’d like to really be charismatic in
your personal and business life, it’s time to start experimenting with speaking
with certainty.
Exercise – Remove and Replace
Sounding wishy-washy is very much a function of the language you use when you
express yourself. The easiest way to stop appearing to be drifting without a rudder
is to remove the words “I guess” from your vocabulary.
Tiny verbal changes can have a huge impact in how dynamic and charismatic you
seem to other people. But “waste removal” is just half the task. When you break a
habit (like saying “I guess”), you can’t simply stop the behavior. You must replace
one behavior with another.
When it comes to radiating charisma, you should remove all words of doubt and
replace them with words of certainty.
1 Instead of saying, “I guess so,” try saying, “Yes!”
2 Instead of saying “I guess that’s be okay,” try saying, “That’s what I want.”
3 Instead of saying, “I guess we could sit over there,” try saying, “Let’s sit over
there.”
Some people have natural charisma in their speaking. The rest of us just have
practice.
Good luck!