No,I’m not talking about the office crush. We are talking about the people magnet. a specimen a lot of us envy. why are some people in the office or our social circle always so popular? They are always surrounded by a bunch of people who like them and enjoy their company.

The people magnets never have that awkward- what do i do now that I don’t have anyone to talk to. If you are the reclusive sort who doesn’t care a fig about your popularity, cease reading now. But if you go bed every day agonizing what does he/she has that I don’t. So here are some tips to make you the chosen one.

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1].Be warm:- Frosty treatments only gets you positive results in Mills and boon novels. In the real world, you not only need to be warm to attract people, you need to display that warmth too. A surefire way to looking warm, read approachable is to smile. The moment you do so, you are willing to take the relationship forward. Author, motivator and corporate trainer Rakish Aglaia calls smile the natural character of a person. I’m drawn to people who have a reasonably smiling face, it’s a kind of an invitation, says Army officer Atilt Christoph.

Danger:-But please, don’t keep grinning all the time. There are times when you need to be other things- sympathetic or concerned for instance.

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2].Be Interested:-If you want people to be interested in you should show then that you are genuinely interested in them. When someone comes up to you and starts talking about him/her, listen. Make eye contact and give him/her your full attention. The person should feel that he/she matters. Also you will agree that you like to be appreciated. Ditto for the rest of us. Forget flattery points. Give honest and sincere appreciation. People will treasure your words and repeat them over a lifetime, long after you have forgotten you have uttered them says Dale Carnegie in how to win friends and influence people.

Danger:- But remember you can fake interest for some time, not for very long. It’s better to develop a genuine curiosity about people if you really want to be popular. Also avoid being judgemental, nobody likes to be around someone who is always cruising others. Try and understand why people do what they do.

3].Be witty:- I love being around people who crack jokes and relate funny anecdotes. A witty person always has a magnetic effect on people. Others view him/her as someone who is approachable and easy going. The ability to laugh at your self once in a while is also a very endearing quality which was a quality of Charley Chaplin.

Danger:-But that does not mean you start cracking every bad joke you know. Don’t overdo it. No one likes to be near a loud or crude person. Be careful you do not offend anyone. Your humour should not be derogatory. You cannot poke fun at someone in the group and expect to be popular.

 4].Be confident:-People with low self confidence do not attract the attention of others. That is because low self esteem shows in your body language. Corporate trainer points out that people listen more to your body language than to what you say. That means people are more likely to believe the message your body is communicating than what you are saying. So you may smile and say hi but if you look defensive or tense no one will want to linger and talk to you. To look relaxed, keep your hands at your sides and foot slightly forward. That is the most inviting posture. Posture can make a big difference.

Danger:- Don’t come across as cocky. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Don’t be over confident.

5].Be presentable:-Agreed, a good looking person is not necessarily interesting, that does not mean you neglect the way you look. Take care of your looks because smart people attract others. If you can’t be bothered with following fashion trends, develop a style that is yours own. Any body who breaks conventional stereotypes attracts people’s interest.

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Danger:- Don’t be eccentric be individualistic and yes don’t be vain.