He Says He Doesn’t Know What He Wants – How to Handle This Dating Dilemma.

What should you be doing if you’re dating a terrific guy and he says he doesn’t know what he wants? It’s a strange and emotionally challenging situation to be in. You start feeling as though you’re falling in love with a man and he tells you that he’s just not sure he even wants a relationship. Is the right move to sit around patiently until he does decide or is it best to push him into a decision? It may feel impossible to know what’s right but there are things you can do that will make the situation easier for you. You actually have the ability to make him see how special and irresistible you really are.

When he tells you he doesn’t know what he wants, try your best to not overreact. This is obviously much easier said than done though. When a man knows, without question, that you’re completely and totally his, he actually loses a little interest in you. If you’re constantly telling him that you adore him and can’t live without him it may actually be pushing him further away from you if he’s undecided about a relationship. Men find a great deal of fulfillment in the thrill of the chase. They love pursuing a woman and they absolutely want to feel as though they’re the ones winning us over. That’s why you need to use the old ploy of playing hard to get if he’s waffling on whether or not he wants a relationship with you.

If you seem to care less, he’ll actually care more. It sounds very much like a game, doesn’t it? In many respects that’s exactly what dating is. You need to play your hand and watch his next move. If you show him all your cards by revealing everything you’re feeling, the game suddenly becomes much less interesting to him. That’s the very reason why becoming less available, less affectionate and a little distant works so well.

Instead of focusing on every move he’s making and everything he’s saying to you, go out and do your own thing. Switch the dynamic around a bit. You had a great, interesting, and fun life before he came along. Show him that you still do. Spend more of your time with friends, or chasing after your own dreams. When he calls to make plans, don’t always be available to him. Let him see that you have options besides him. It drives a man wild with desire if he knows a woman isn’t sitting at home patiently waiting for him. If he has to put in some effort to win you over, he won’t be nearly as confused anymore about what he wants.

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  • Jennifer on Jul 11, 2011

    I wish I read this before I completely expressed my feelings to this man I have been seeing about 2 monhs now. I am a very open person and he is not. Now he says its too much too fast and he needs time to think about what he wants. He has been alone about 6 yrs now after only being married for 4. All this time living, breathing and doing everything alone. He invited me into his life, not the other way around. Its a lot now for him to absorb and he needs a little time. I am heartbroken at this change of cards. What to do, I dont know now.

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