Lonliness: is this something that everyone experiences from time to time? The other night I felt really lonely, things had gone wrong for me and I found it difficult to make a decision. What did I do? I went for a long walk along the beachfront. It was around 8:30 at night. What surprised me was the fact that I met only a few people out and about at that time. I just walked and walked, thinking and feeling sorry for myself. Who could I talk to? I just didn’t know who might appreciate my problem.  I was not sure if I wanted anybody to know I even had a problem.

Problem solver: admit you have one

This is probably one of my downfalls. I try to be a cheery person especially in company. I am usually a thoughtful person but now I felt so alone, deserted really. It was a horrible feeling and I didn’t know what to do with my feelings.

Problem solver: two solved:

Just thinking and occasionally speaking my problem aloud [because nobody was around] I felt a bit better.

Admitting I had a problem was a major step for me. Having a problem is one thing, but admitting it is another, and I found this to be a good stepping stone. Admit my problem. So easy but so hard. By admitting I had a problem I solved two problems, the problem and the fact that I admitted I had a problem. That was neat.

Problem solver: shelve

Still, the problem was not solved, just shelved. I kept walking and absorbing the breeze blowing from the sea. It had a therapeutic effect: like the problem was being blown away.

Problem helper: let the wind blow on you.  If there is no wind look for a fan and let it blow.

Problem solver: get tired:

Keep walking. Walking seemed to help me to think about the issues. I turned everything over and over, like making break, kneading the dough until I was tired.  That made me want to return home.

Problem solver: go home

I went home, tired and very weary, with a few issued solved in my mind. I went to bed.

Problem solver: talk about it now:

Next day I finally spoke about the issues, having worked through as best I could. I had developed a different perspective over the days of the problem. This is a good idea, wait a few days before confrontation.

End: The whole thing took 3 days to work through and had a happy ending. If I had someone to talk to perhaps the time might have been shortened.

Now, I wonder if I should work on my friendship skills, so that next time I will be able to turn to someone?