We are all guilty of calling people names, we are all guilty of judging a person just by looking at them. Everyone is guilty of making someone else feel bad. Isn’t it time that this was stopped and that we should start to look beyond physical appearance. Look beyond all that really stupid stuff.  Isn’t it time to really get to know a person before we start judging. Because it is possible that you have a lot in common with that person.

With me the first things that people say about me when they meet me for the first time is oh she is so quite, she doesn’t really say alot or interact with us much. People have also commented that i appear to look extermly stupid abit thick and quite over weight, and is a four eyes. who is a touch mental. And that they have nothing in common with me and defiantly don’t want to be in the same room as me. So to them this is who i am?. This is wrong because if they really knew me they would know who i am as a person.

If they really knew me then they would know that i was a victim of child sexual abuse (started age 4). I also was victim to emotional abuse and physical abuse.  You would know this is why i am shy, i am even more shy around new people because i know they are judging me.  You would know that if you took the time to get to know me, the shyness soon goes away.

If if you really knew me, you would know that I have a great sense of humour, that i like sitting having a laugh with people. They would know that i love music, I love all different types of music. That i like films and like all different types of films. I like reading crime thrillers  and love to write.

If you really knew me you would know that I have Bipolar but you would also know that bipolar is an illness that i have it’s not who i am.

If you really knew me you would know that I love animals and that i have re homed lots of animals that have be treated badly. You would also know that my favorite breed of dog is a Stafforshire bull terrier. 

If you really knew me you would know that, I was once very skinny and that i kept fit by going to Judo twice a week for many years and got to a green belt. That i also started to learn Kug Fu. I love martial arts.  My weight problem started when i started taking medications for my bipolar. Then was diagnosed as having an under-active thyroid gland. You would know that i don’t sit around all day eating anything and everything and don’t exercise at all.

If you really knew me you would know that i was pregnant with triplets and that because my ex was extremely violent I ended up having a miscarriage i was 17 weeks and 6 days gone when i lost them. I lost two boys and a girl. My ex got community service and a fine for what he did. You would know that it was only me and my mum that grieved for them.

I still blame myself for what happened, and always will. I miss them like mad everyday.

If you really knew me you would know that, I have fallen in love for the very first time with a nice decent guy that i never thought in a million years that i would ever get to meet. Or that he would be interested with me. Everyday i worry that i will do something that will mean me losing him. That thought makes me feel sick.

If you really knew me you would know that there is so much more to me then there appears to be.

How could anyone know all this about me just by looking at me. The answer is they can’t no one can.  So next time please don’t judge someone because of their weight, illness, color of their skin , their sexuality , by the clothes they wear , because they are quite.

Look beyond and get to know who they are as people before you start judging or just let them be.

One of my favorite sayings never judge a book by it’s cover.

It’s the same for people.