If a person (called A) stated a negative fact about your child and you (called B) told him this statement as a response, would person B be making excuses, being mean or trying to help that person?

Although the person A who stated the negative fact needs to be more tactful about what he or she says, a humble person B responding would not say something like that unless really provoked to do so. A whole and happy person B responding is also like the humble person for he/she has nothing to prove or make anyone unhappy for. Now the prideful, incomplete or needy, and unhappy person B would respond that way for he/she has something to prove so he/she and his/her family must be somebody or something in everyone’s eyes.

The fact that person B do not feel whole makes him/her attached to being someone or something and this might make this person B put others down to feel more or better than person A or to force person A to see that whoever they are stating a negative fact about is not as bad as the one who made the original negative comment. If the comment helps person A change then it is good that person B said it that way but most people do not respond positively to comments like that so the best way is to talk to the person in a more positive way.

Is it possible to get person B to respond more positively to person A’s comment? If person B wanted to learn or become better then it is possible but if person B cannot or does not want to get out of that prideful, needy or unhappy state then it is difficult. Many times person B does not even realize that he is prideful, needy and unhappy so it’s like you are talking to a brick wall instead of a person about the situation.

If you want a person to change then you will have to change the way you are to that person. They might originally complain about you because you are different but when they see that they cannot do anything about the change then they will alter the way they respond to you. Make the change in yourself stay true to your beliefs and true self, not negative and against your true self. Move towards happiness and fulfillment of your dreams. When you make yourself better for the world, the world becomes better for you too. Be happy!