Written By: Aries Sims

Men pay attention you may learn something! Women if you don’t agree with anything that’s about to be let out in this article then you need to re-evaluate yourselves. A Woman’s way of thought is the complete opposite of a man’s way of thought. Women think with their emotions and hearts. Ladies let’s be honest here! What drives and motivates us?  The answer: A Family, goals, dreams, money.  Men are already formatted in our brains. The first man that you ever fall in love with is your fathers. For women that didn’t grow up with their fathers current long term partners/ or spouses are expected to learn and perform the father’s roles. A father’s roles are what exactly? “Daddy” Protects the family, defends it at all cost, provides for it, and sees to it that the women are taken care of.  So we grow up thinking we want a man like that.  You want a nice house, cars, financial stability, some kids (maybe) and to feel protected, safe and loved. Love is powerful, but black love (especially) and I’m talking that real “we’ll do anything for each other “kind of love. Black love is infinite. There is nothing like running home after a bad day to a handsome, brown skin or light skin brotha, that loves you, listens to you, and holds you telling you “ baby everything’s gonna be alright” and makes sure that he tries to help you in any way he can. Sorry had to have all people actually be able to envision a strong black couple for once since that’s not what networks often show.

 There are women that choose to take the career path first and then choose romance which can be a good thing, but that doesn’t mean you have to be obsolete to men. You can still date, and you never know, you may find the right one. a suggestion would be to mutually agree on taking things slow and steady. Just have your wants and needs prioritized so you can weed out the fakes, phonies, liars, just plain old sad men.

Now let’s talk about needs and wants. Ladies, let’s face it you are never really truly satisfied. You can have the perfect man in your eyes, the perfect house, the kids, and the financial stability and there will always be something that we will want and we will turn it into a need. Like your hair, Black women have to have their hair done every two to three weeks; we do not feel right if our hair is not done. We have convinced ourselves that our hair needs to be done.  You wear every style imaginable from ponytails to braids or relaxed and tracked up.  just to have other people notice or compliment you when it really is just a want. When it comes to a mate, you want the basic things someone who is funny, caring, stable, romantic, and good with kids, honest, sensitive, funny, considerate, loving and protective. Can you really expect all of that from a man? Yes, and then some. You expect it because you give it or you at least try. You baby them when their sick, make excuses for them, take the kids off their hands when they’ve had a long day, give them what they want whenever you can and if you can’t you will try to find a way to get it. You cook for them, clean for them, communicate and listen to them, and in many instances you support them. We feel that if we can do it so can they. Unfortunately you may not always get everything you expect from a man. The reality is that a woman at least needs to see is if that man trying.