I tried to turn a bad husband into a good one; an ignorant husband into an intelligent one; a rude person into a sensitive one. My numerous attempts have failed. Probably, my approaches were not good enough for a total makeover. Of course, now I understand that it is impossible to rebuild a person’s character or the entire world. However, at that time I was absolutely sure that I could change the Universe.

   Only after many unsuccessful attempts to improve my partners’ characters I have come to the conclusion that to change someone is very difficult… no, not difficult – impossible. I wasted my time, efforts and breath in a noble attempt to improve my partners’ behaviour and way of thinking, but they didn’t want any changes. So, I came to a conclusion that it was better to change myself and do the things I really can. I decided following my previous experiences not to waste my life for love of improving somebody, but to spend my precious time for achieving my goals. This is more profitable.

   So, let’s analyse if rebuilding someone else’s character is something that you need in your life. What does it do for you? It takes your time; wastes your energy; definitely makes you angry because your attempts are always met with the resentment and you end up quarreling with your partner; you become nervous and unsatisfied with your attempts and each time you think that the next attempt will be better and more sophisticated, however, it doesn’t do the trick anyway… etc.

   How do you feel? Empty, angry, upset and lonely. The conclusion. Do you need improving someone else’s character? No.

   It is another thing which you do not need in your life. Get rid of it. If your sight is not good enough to see useless attempts you are making, don’t be shy to ask for advice, it doesn’t hurt. Otherwise, analyze the situation honestly, and don’t be afraid to rid of love for improving someone’s character, it won’t do you any good at all.

   You might ask how to remove this filthy habit. Here comes your second step on the way to happiness, prosperity and anything you want, and this one is relatively easy: concentrate on YOUR goals, on YOUR performance, YOUR health and YOUR dreams. Don’t waste your time trying to find out what’s wrong with your partner. Save your breath and energy, save yourself and your prescious time - you will obviously need all those for achieving your goals.

To be continued…