I happen to view myself as a very fun-loving, open person. I just generally like to get to know people, no matter what path of life they’ve taken or background or age or race. So it really REALLY gets to me when people (most especially people that should actually care to be a part of my life..cough cough.. my sister) start judging, assuming, and running there mouths. Let’s call this JAR.

These qualities are not only ugly, they are hurtful. Now, we’ve all done these things at one time or another, we’re HUMAN. But when does it get to be TOO much? What causes a person to become easily interested in causing false rumors, pre-meditated hating IMO?

 First there’s the judging. How the hell can anybody judge not only on first sight, but the first few times meeting someone. I mean, seriously..do you really think anyone knows you right away? It takes a long time to truly know someone..even if you are closely connected to them. So to judge without any knowledge of who that person is, where they are in life, why they made the choices they made, it’s childish. And then there’s is the assuming..oh god the assumers!  I believe most assumers have a serious self-conspiracy problem. Notice I say believe..I’m not assuming..I have active proof that leads me to believe this. So now that we’ve come up with a theory on the person and made asses of ourselves, lets spread the bs to everyone. I’ve been around grown adults..and im talking 50s, that do this..and honestly, I feel as though I’m in a middle school classroom. Gossip can be fun (we all like to gossip..men I don’t care what you say..you do it too and you love it) But there is a line when talking about personal things that are not-so-personal to you, but to someone else life. GROW UP and SHUT YOUR MOUTHS!

So why do people open the “JAR”? Insecurity, wanting to be “accepted” maybe because you “know” something others don’t. You may even convince yourself that the things you say are true! I assure you, if it is not your own life you are discussing, you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. Don’t open the JAR, live your own life..and if you have nothing to say anymore, at least you have a life you can talk about.

My main dilemma is that I have repetitively let people with these kinds of toxic behaviors back into my life. I’ve gotten much better, mind you, but I sometimes put guilt on myself because my heart is way too big for my own good. Sad to say, but I’m actually happy that so many people have broken my trust..otherwise people would just look at me and see a bridge. Now..well.. if they do still see a bridge, there’s at least a few cops outside and those folks are gonna take another route. Don’t take that literally or I’ll doubt your intelligence.

To sum this up short and sweet, do not judge, assume, and run your mouth. You look and sound like a complete and utter idiot when you do.