Today’s the day you’re going to launch your web site.  You’re excited and nervous at the same time.  You have been spreading the word and getting everyone on Face book to give you the thumbs up.  You receive e-mail after e-mail on how great your new site is and then you get the e-mail.  The one that is full of opinions that point out every last fear you ever had about your new business. Why is it that the negative e-mail rises to the top in your mind?  Wouldn’t it be much better to keep your mind on all those well wishers? But somehow your mind keeps going back to that one e-mail.  It makes you feel insecure and doubtful.  So how can this harm your business or even your own life? 

          Your thoughts and feelings are responsible for what happens in your life.  You are not a leaf blowing in the wind of life just going where life takes you.  You have the ability to direct your life through what you think and feel and your reactions to others are a part of the process.  An opinion is just that, an opinion.  But for some reason we take some opinions to heart even if they come from someone who has no clue what they are talking about. 

          When someone gives their opinion it can be from a well meaning heart but there is no way that someone who tells you ‘they know’ all about your experience.  You see, we are all unique.  Each and every one of us has different thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of the world.  Even if you were born as a twin and did everything the same together you would still have different thoughts – even on the same subjects.  So it is with an opinion.        Unless someone has walked in your shoes and experienced every thought, action, nuance, and feeling around it they can only give you what they think is right for you.  So now that you see what an opinion actually is how do you keep from getting upset and frustrated when someone gives their opinion; one that hurts your feelings or makes you doubt your own life?  You give up any reaction to what they say.  And you also realize that each person has their own right to make comparisons in life and to give you advice even if you don’t want it.  They are creating their own world, just like you, through their thoughts. 

          Always take the advice into consideration and if it works for you then use it but if it is just a criticism of some sort and you know it won’t help you then release the opinion so that it doesn’t affect you.  You have the ability to be upset or not and to continue on in life.   You can say, “Thanks for your opinion,” and leave it at that.  Then you can focus on the positive that surrounds you instead of the negative. 

          So what could the positive be in an opinion that makes you feel upset?  It shows you what you don’t want in life through contrast of another’s thought.  It helps you to understand what works in your life and what doesn’t and the less focus put on the negative of the ‘don’t wants’ of life, the more that will greatly benefit you arrives.  As you feel better about your life and create more positive thoughts the Universe will hear your call and bring more of the same right to your door.  Of course…this is just our opinion!