Parenting today is much more challenging than it was in yesteryear. Why so?
Formerly, when a child came into this world, the entire extended family, and a part of the community participated in his / her upbringing. In fact it was a delight for the child’s aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends of the family and even the next door neighbors to play a part in caring for his / her needs. Subsequently, the guidance from others who have first hand knowledge, and many years of experience in child rearing, gives the new parents the help and support needed to carry out their role.

Parenting today is much more challenging than it was in yesteryear. Why so?

Formerly, when a child came into this world, the entire extended family, and a part of the community participated in his / her upbringing. In fact it was a delight for the child’s aunts, uncles, grandparents, friends of the family and even the next door neighbors to play a part in caring for his / her needs. Subsequently, the guidance from others who have first hand knowledge, and many years of experience in child rearing, gives the new parents the help and support needed to carry out their role.

But much of that has changed in today’s nuclear world. We live in a transientsociety / world wherein a large portion of the population is “moving house” daily. Many people are moving away from the rural areas to the large urban cities.

Some move from developing countries to the more advanced, developed countries in search of better economic opportunities. Consequently, a large number of new parents today find themselves stranded, and facing the challenges of child rearing alone.

Compounding these challenges are the complexities of life found in large urban communities. An expensive apartment or a pricy mortgage takes up a huge portion of the family income. And when the budget cannot be balanced on just the earnings of the father alone, the mother is obliged to join him in the work force; leaving the needs of their children to be met by the fast growing Day Care industry/ Nursery schools.

Sometimes struggling, working parents find that their employment consume so much of their energy that when they get home they just do not have the physical vigor needed to train their children properly; and to teach them the real values that will give them a good sense of direction.

So some parents just delegate the training of their children to the care takers. Yet the giver of life, who blessed us with the ability to conceive and give birth to a child, said: “Parents should train their children when they sit in their house, when they lie down, when they get up, and when they walk on the road”, in short – every possible opportunity. So the onus is on the parents to train their children.

But while some working parents cannot muster up the energy to do the training themselves and the training of their children is being done by care-givers; the children will learn, and form much of their values based on what they see around them. When this progresses, the final analysis is a set of values based on those of the care-takers and the children’s friends; and not necessarily on parental standards. And this makes it very difficult for the parents to discipline their children.

The disciplining of children is also more challenging today than ever before because of the critical period in which we live. There is a wide spread wave of disobedience rebelliousness, and disrespectfulness permeating the world today. Some people deliberately disobey the law, others revolt against the government, and some yell profanity at one another as they drive on the roads. And children are master observers of this. They will try to imitate some of these things, and also some of the negative attitudes they see portrayed in the media through television programs, cartoons, and even the commercial advertisements that are designed to be humorous.

Additionally, stress from financial problems put more burden on the parents. Sometimes this leads to a crisis which ends up with a separation of the married mates. But, the family suffers a terrible blow when one of the mates commits adultery. When the act is discovered, the formerly pleasant family life takes a downward swing. The result is usually a divorce and the splitting up of the siblings; or divorce with a single parent family, wherein all of the children live together with one custodial parent.

The single parent who is raising this family faces many challenges. The most significant of all is assuming the role of both mom and dad, and having to make all of the decisions single-handedly. And some parents tend to use the children as tools to manipulate the other parent, especially if they do not like the custody arrangements made by the court.

These are only a few of the social and economic problems of today that affect the ability of parents to raise their children with less stress. Yet, these very problems that have such a remarkable impact on parenting today were very rear in the families of yesteryear

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  • GodsGrace on Sep 4, 2010

    Yes, I am agree with you

  • CHAN LEE PENG on Sep 4, 2010

    Parenting has become a challenging task to do. Parents should learn how to properly teach their child.

  • papaleng on Sep 4, 2010

    you said it all Monica.

  • Emmie on Sep 4, 2010

    Fantastic Article.

    Emmie

  • giftarist on Sep 4, 2010

    Brilliant post, friend. Agree with your points.

  • ana on Sep 4, 2010

    This article is definitely something to agree with. I do notice that it is harder for parents to care for their child nowadays. I happen to be quite rebellious myself. lol That is because I find that they “don’t understand me.” That happens with many others I know. The reason for that has been stated in the article: parents need to spend more time with their kids and learn to connect with them. Especially during this time of economic need, it is much more difficult. :(

    This article is definitely great advice. ;)

  • monica55 on Sep 4, 2010

    Thank you dear friends, I enjoy all of your comments. Have a wonderful weekend.
    Monica.

  • PSingh1990 on Sep 5, 2010

    Nice post…….

    Thank for share.

  • Roberta Baxter Eugene Oregon Dogs Examiner on Sep 5, 2010

    I have found you,my friend! This is such an educational article; one every parent should read for lessons learned.

  • Eunice Tan on Sep 5, 2010

    Agree, Monica. This is a different time.

  • Mr Ghaz on Sep 6, 2010

    Nice post monica..Thanks for sharing :) )

  • CA Johnson on Sep 10, 2010

    This was very interesting and I agree with you too. I am not a parent yet, but I do have friends who have children and they have more challenges with their kids now. Children are growing up so fast now and they are being exposed to so many new things too.

  • Ruby Hawk on Sep 15, 2010

    When I was raising my kids, my extended family had their own problems and I never expected any help. My kids were my responsibility and I took it seriously. I think that’s the problem today. Today’s parents don’t take responsibility well and they have forgotten the word no.

  • Goodselfme on Sep 16, 2010

    WEll composed with lots of great information and messages.thank you for sharing.

  • Nykesha Alexandra on Sep 19, 2010

    Full of advises!

  • babyishinilej on Sep 19, 2010

    I feel for my parents. Nice post.

  • Sudheer Birodkar on Sep 26, 2010

    With our online existence, kids are brought up differently. Thanks for sharing your perspective on this. I substantially agree with what you say especially for the single parent.

  • westgi on Sep 30, 2010

    Very interesting, beautiful! gigi

  • C LEBLANC on Nov 16, 2010

    I agree with you. This was a great write!

  • richardpeeej on Nov 25, 2010

    very interesting article Monica. It is important that children have some discipline in their lives, but you can do this in a friendly way.

  • athena goodlight on Dec 7, 2010

    Yes, it’s true. A lot of family matters are more complex now. The challenge to us parents is to keep the basic family values intact because a solid foundation is still the best legacy we can give to our children. Great write up.

  • OhSugar on Jan 31, 2011

    Now that the home has two working parents or a single parent, raising children has become more difficult than ever. The children don’t seem to have anymore respect for parents anymore which makes it difficult to get them the listen to good advice that will keep the out of trouble. Very nice post.

  • CutestPrincess on Feb 2, 2011

    you are right… thanks for the share!

  • FX777222999 on Nov 30, 2011

    Good article my friend.

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