The gorgeous, talented, heart-throb of most men Rihanna, finally broke her silence about the abusive relationship she was in, with her celebrity ex-boyfriend Chris Brown. She spoke on ‘Good Morning America’ and was also interviewed by Diane Sawyer on ABC’s ‘20/20′.

The first time I heard of this news, I was going through a rough patch in my life. I realized  then that no matter who we are or what we do, physical abuse does not leave us in physical pain alone, but also causes mental trauma.

 Rihanna with a black eye and thick lip

The only reason Rihanna must have chosen to stay silent for this long is because she loved Chris. Love blinds you in ways, that are not always good. 

Rihanna says that she saw ‘no soul in his eyes’ and that there was ‘no person when I looked at him’, when Chris was punching her during that outburst in February, in Los Angeles’ Hancock Park neighborhood. Chris was arrested for this felony on Feb 8th.

Rihanna still says that Chris was her first love. But she did admit that when she went back to him after the abuse, it sent a wrong signal to all the women out there who looked up to her and celebrities like her.

Initially, it was unclear as to what had caused the fight in Brown’s car. But finally it was revealed that it was triggered off, when Rihanna spotted a text message on Chris’ mobile phone from some other woman. She started interrogating him then and there and that is what made things worse.

                            Rihanna

I certainly feel bad for Rihanna, but also feel that she could have handled this better. No good could come from interrogating him in the car like that. Rihanna should have waited to confront him. I also believe that once he abused her, she should not have kept mum on the issue. Also, going back to Chris was definitely a bad call!!

                   Chris Brown

So for any woman/man who goes through abuse:

1) Don’t do things that can make the situation worse. Confront at the right time.

2) If you get abused, don’t shy away from what is happening. Speak up and take action.

3) Remember that you are not alone and you have to take action before things go out of hand.

4) Get professional help, if possible.

Finally, all I have to say is Rihanna should keep that ‘Umbrella’ with her, and use it as a weapon, if need be.

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20091107/ap_on_en_mu/us_people_rihanna_20