Restraint! No I am not talking about tying yourself up but self control. I believe our lives would be a lot simpler, easier and happier if we have this quality. We do things and we say thing that we regret later. All this can be prevented if we have this quality. It is like jumping a red light. More often than not we get away with it but sometimes when it is not our day we all know what happens. It is only after such incidents occur that we think; why did I do that? It was a stupid thing to do. I should have restrained myself.

 Having a quality is one thing but learning it is an entirely different ball game. What if someone who loves to be spontaneous, or should I say, love to jump the gun wants to learn the art of restrain. Is it possible? I believe it is. It could be difficult but it is possible. I believe the best way going about it is the assess yourself. There are all kinds of temptations and triggers where one looses ones cool. I think finding these triggers is like winning half the battle. For example one is impulsive and the second hears something about oneself; looses cool and blasts off, and the next thing you know things start coming out of the mouth which are often regrettable later on. Even worse sometimes we act out of fear of others. We have this notion of respect and what others will think if we do not react. Well I can tell you something, your respect is in your hands only. You do not need to fight to earn it. Those who think otherwise; well, I can only be sorry for them.

 Once you know your triggers you need to think about them. Why you do such things and react the way you do. Do you need to react this way? Did it cause you any harm? Was there a way out of that situation? This will help you clear your mind and help you realize what made you go over. You would be better prepared for the future to face such situations.

 The second half of the battle is what you need to do when you are in a situation. Well, the best thing is to take deep breaths and some time before you react. Just think it over before doing or saying anything. You need to stop reacting the way you did before. Once you get out of a situation using restrain you would understand its importance even more. It would be difficult but who said changing old habits was easy, especially your bad ones.