If there’s a problem in every individual nowadays, it’s the trepidation of committing oneself to a person and to a situation. It is no longer a psychological problem that people detest long ago, ironically, it seems an acceptable notion and a convenient agreement at present. This is likely one of the downfalls of every relationship and became an inclination to the society where the visible indication is the passivity of some individuals. Today is the age where commitments create complications, where the person you’re committed is not just a liability but a personal baggage, where minding their own business is a fair truce and no strings attached impede expectations thereby evading disappointments. Seems true enough, but does it worth it?

Probably, indifference might be a safe zone where there are lesser conflicts. Given the drawbacks of commitment, how about the other way around? No commitment might be an easy escape when a situation gets dense yet it leaves a person hanging. Emotional security is a factor that contributes personal growth and confidence to a person. Commitment assured both parties therefore establishing trust and loyalty. It might be risky but it’s better than vague relationships. Asserting ourselves to a situation generates more affirmative possibilities than just being submissive. It directs and drives a person to accomplish his/her goals.

Fear is one of the reasons why a person does not gamble with commitment. It could be because the impact is more painful or if the person is afraid to disclose himself/herself leaving him/her vulnerable. Yet it is only when we allow ourselves susceptible that we learn our true identity. It is not just our strengths that make us but our weaknesses or failures create more impact to our life which drives us to strive for success. In a relationship, we can only be accepted by who we are if we unveil our true selves to our partner. But the bottom line is, committing ourselves makes a more lasting relationship than not.