The first part of the answer is a problem not unique to adolescents. Most people I know (of all ages) find it difficult to manage time. It’s natural to put off the unpleasant jobs in deference to what’s enjoyable. It should not be surprising, therefore, that homework is a low priority put off until the last possible moment. There is no problem, however, planning for prom or waiting in line for concert tickets, not to mention the time wasted vegetating in front of the TV or just “goofing off.”

          Parents can offer much help to teens in this area. Organizing one’s time is an invaluable, lifetime skill. First, take an evening to draw up a weekly schedule together, blocking out regular commitments and hours for studying. The discipline will revolutionize homework, release time for other activities, and give freedom to enjoy them. In addition, teach them the technique of a practical “to do” list, a continuous record of appointments, assignments, activities, and actions. If they can learn to prioritize these items and to finish the most important ones first (not necessarily the easiest or most enjoyable), they will be miles ahead.

          The second part of the answer to the enigma of lost time is less obvious. It involves a phenomenon called “socialization.” Teenagers have tremendous social needs. They are struggling to find out who they are and where they fit in. With fragile egos they seek affirmation from peers, and they desire their own “space.” Much of their “wasted” time must be interpreted in this light. Whether monopolizing the phone, listening to records, “shopping” at the mall, eating-eating-eating, or just hanging out, they are learning about themselves.

           The response to this “problem” should be informed and benign neglect coupled with strong encouragement. In other words, within reason we should expect and allow this social use of time. This doesn’t mean an unlimited lease of the telephone or a blank check for “messing around” – this freedom must be balanced with the schedule and list suggested earlier. Additionally, parents should be aware and concerned about the influence of friends and the character of “hang-outs.” But teens should be given freedom to discover their own way through the maze of identity, independence, and ideas.

There are a couple of other factors to consider when analyzing teens’ use of time:

1. Physical growth – Adolescent bodies are maturing rapidly and need nourishment. It should not be surprising, then, that teenagers are perpetually hungry, and seem to eat all the time.

2. Misconception of time – To children, a year seems like an eternity and adulthood is a forever away. They spend a lot of their free time playing. Teenagers were children just a few short years ago: they still view time from that perspective, and pain and hard work are seen as life’s exceptions. This makes it even more difficult for them to follow through and complete unpleasant and unenjoyable assignments.

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