We are all told to forget or forgive and move on with our life; but that is truly a selfish thing for someone to give as advise. We don’t know the depth of the person’s pain, discomfort, fear or anguish, so who are we to say forgive and move on; or forget about it.

To forget about someone’s hurtful words or actions is to act as if they did not occur! How does someone who is hurt just forget about the actions of others?

            To forgive a person is to excuse the person of their actions, to let go of the anger you cling to. You pardon them for their actions, and try to resolve the situation?

            What ever your religion is; it is the belief to forgive others, with the hope that other will forgive you when you “trespass against them”. The sad truth is as much as we say we forgive someone, we truly never forget.

            Many of us believe we have truly forgiven someone, until we see him or her; then we remember the situation that caused us hurt, anger, or embarrassment, and we get angry. Look to your Good Book, and see how you can slowly bring true forgiveness into your heart, and let the feeling diminish slowly.

            Forgetting is like acting like it never happened, that is not the way to handle it.  Truly forgiving someone, you must search your heart; ask for the strength to forgive.