Trust is the thing that never fails one’s soul to everything he wants. It is the foundation of a healthy unison of spirits longing for either a company or lifetime partner. It enlightens one’s path when dimness eats it wholly.

It is the element that everyone wants to attain and be attained, but often misunderstood.

Seldom could really give the true essence of trust, of what is its role and how it is earned. However, countless people claim that the best way to earn it is to believe in everything that one say or do, in the context of “if you really love me, just trust me.”

However, trust is best attained through effort, not force or word of mouth. It’s not measured by word, but by actions. It is best earned through simple yet meaningful gestures, and not through flowery utterances. It is best proven through eyes, and not through mind.

Face the fact. Trust demands concrete reasons, and not mere abstract feelings. Trusting someone just because of love is very different from trusting someone because of his affectionate actions. Besides, feelings are useless without putting it to life.

Trust demands truth, and with this, lies have no special place to it. The world is deceiving, and so are the people that surround us. Truth is both felt and seen; thus, making it hard to be distinguished. And as truth sets one free, trust pushes truth into our fragile lives.

It spells loyalty. Loyalty limits one to do acts beyond one’s limitations. It starts from avoiding of sending text messages to a “threat” for one or both parties to staying beside the one he loves through thick and thin. It lets two souls explore, yet binds them back whenever they’re doing it too far.

Trust also contains courage and compassion. It eradicates cowardice in admitting shortcomings and replacing it with endurance for pain. It makes one’s feelings numb, but triggers emotion to forgiveness at the end of the day.

Lastly, trust secures two spirits. It wrings one’s neck but let him still breathe for air. It confines one’s life to his partner without affecting other aspects of life. And it commands one to do things that will not affect the relationship.

So, the next time one tells you to trust him just because you love him, think twice. You might have a wrong choice.

xoxo

A choice to end a relationship is a choice of a wise man.

But to make ways to have that person back again despite that you have broken-up with him is foolish, making the doer a fool. It proves that the decision is futile; it connotes that you haven’t thought it several times before doing so.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying all of the people who have done that are fool. But it goes to some who breaks up in a just a snap.

It is unhealthy to break-up in times your emotions are heightened and in times it controls your sense of direction for it leads to unforeseen consequences and unexpected outcomes. Worst, you might realize in the long run that the decision you have made is wrong, wanting to turn back the hands of time.

But “pakikipagbalikan” is like a food; the many the instances you re-cook or even re-heat it, the less it becomes healthy.

The damage has been done, and even though how many times one tends to fix things up, it will never be the same before. It’s a fact that many seldom realize.

So in times that you are in a rough road that you want to end the relationship, be wise. Sometimes, the best thing to have in times like this is silence.